Hi all.
I have been an avid lurker but am now posting for some advice please on a difficult situation please.
My husband and I (and sometimes our son) have been the main carers to my husbands elderly father for two years - he has just been admitted in the past 2 weeks to a self funding care home due to weakness, many falls, dementia as he couldnt live alone.
My husbands sister visits occasionally but wants him to go back to live in his house with carers. He does not want to do this but is unsure.
My husband and I cannot provide the care anymore to allow this to happen. We just can't do it anymore. I am sure the motivaton is the cost of the home but to be honest we dont care about the inheritance - we just cant go back to how it was.We have tried with carers before and he didnt like it and sent them away so it fell to us.
There are no POA's in place. Can we stop this happening? She (and others in the family) are adament that they want him back home. She is too far away to do any care herself and is a single parent with children that she concentrates on. Other family members are also too far away to help. There is only us and our son.
Any help gratefully received.
Thanks so much!
I have been an avid lurker but am now posting for some advice please on a difficult situation please.
My husband and I (and sometimes our son) have been the main carers to my husbands elderly father for two years - he has just been admitted in the past 2 weeks to a self funding care home due to weakness, many falls, dementia as he couldnt live alone.
My husbands sister visits occasionally but wants him to go back to live in his house with carers. He does not want to do this but is unsure.
My husband and I cannot provide the care anymore to allow this to happen. We just can't do it anymore. I am sure the motivaton is the cost of the home but to be honest we dont care about the inheritance - we just cant go back to how it was.We have tried with carers before and he didnt like it and sent them away so it fell to us.
There are no POA's in place. Can we stop this happening? She (and others in the family) are adament that they want him back home. She is too far away to do any care herself and is a single parent with children that she concentrates on. Other family members are also too far away to help. There is only us and our son.
Any help gratefully received.
Thanks so much!