Hi there I have a 24 year old daughter with a diagnosis of bpd and I am new to this forum. I have read a few of the posts regarding bpd and can sympathise totally with what you are experiencing. Our lives have been torn apart by living with this. It is an illness which can be very manipulative and you can doubt your own sanity at times! I agree that boundaries are important. For years we enabled our daughters behaviour trying to keep the peace which only makes matters worse but when you are living with it you can't see this. Our daughter has taken 16 overdoses, self harmed, threatened to hang herself, blamed it on her childhood; she loves us one minute, hates us the next. She has been living in supported accommodation and we finally have peace at home. She is desperate to come home, has been taking heroin which she blames on her accommodation which housed some addicts. This difficult illness destroys relationships and tears families apart. I have huge sympathy for anyone trying to support a family member with bpd.
Welcome to the forum, Janie.
Thank you for sharing your story. Caring for someone with BPD is tough. I think you have done well to get her into supported housing, now you can focus on being her Mum, rather than living and breathing her issues as her carer.
Melly1