I live with my 73 year old husband who is staying at home for 3 months as per gov advice. However I also care for my 90 year old mother who has been in hospital for a week because of a fall and then had carers for a week, now they have stopped. Am I risking my husband's health by going to see my mother? She lives 2 miles away and I would walk there and back.
Do I go and stay in a different room or outside? I was going twice a week and helping prepare vegetables, taking things to dustbin, sometimes doing bits of cleaning, helping her with paperwork. I also do bits of shopping for her but it seems a bit silly to avoid shopping for us because of husband and then do it for mum. She has a delivery of food once a fortnight but tends to run out of things the second week. The gov advice seems to be that older people only need help with washing and dressing and preparing meals. My mum can do these things if essential but am I supposed to leave her to fish for 3 months? I feel very torn between caring for her and caring for my husband.
She will not ask for help and relies on me doing things usually in response to hints rather than her asking me. I have a brother who lives at the far end of the country.
Do I go and stay in a different room or outside? I was going twice a week and helping prepare vegetables, taking things to dustbin, sometimes doing bits of cleaning, helping her with paperwork. I also do bits of shopping for her but it seems a bit silly to avoid shopping for us because of husband and then do it for mum. She has a delivery of food once a fortnight but tends to run out of things the second week. The gov advice seems to be that older people only need help with washing and dressing and preparing meals. My mum can do these things if essential but am I supposed to leave her to fish for 3 months? I feel very torn between caring for her and caring for my husband.
She will not ask for help and relies on me doing things usually in response to hints rather than her asking me. I have a brother who lives at the far end of the country.