Hi this could be a very long post so I’ll shorten it a lot
I have been caring for my granddad since my Nan passed away 3 years ago he’s 87 at the moment I only need to visit once a day.
His daughter moved around the corner from him 6 months ago from France. I thought it was to help care for him as he gets older and needs us around more.
His daughter has just recently met a guy and is marrying him and moving to Spain and leaving me with the responsibility of caring for her dad ( she will be leaving her daughter in uk ) but her daughter goes to college 5 days a week and then does a lot of studying on weekends.
I have had a chat with my aunt and told her I think she is being very selfish going off with a man she doesn’t even know and leaving me who is disabled anyway to look after him on a daily basis.
Now I love my grandad to bits but with my illness I’m finding it hard already and his care needs are only going to get greater but she just doesn’t seam to care about anybody but herself !!!!! She has even said well it’s life. After that comment none of us are going to the wedding of the year lol.
Am I in the wrong for expecting her to help look after her dad ?
Why should I do it all 7 days a week when she’s sunbathing in Spain with a man she has known for less than 12 weeks. She’s also told her daughter she needs to do more to help out her grandad !!!! ( she is a stranger to him ) I’ve told her she needs to take a leaf out of her own book as she is his daughter so she should be the one doing more. At this moment in time she is making me feel like I’m the one that is in the wrong just sending me messages telling me I need to stop ranting and even suggesting I go away on holiday cause I need a break. As I speak she is working away for 4 weeks and then coming home for 12 days and then going to Spain to see her new boyfriend for 2 weeks. I can’t even have a day away never mind a holiday and feel like she is just patronising me. She has even said she won’t fall out with me as she would be saying the same things to me so my head is messed up with her now even more
I have been caring for my granddad since my Nan passed away 3 years ago he’s 87 at the moment I only need to visit once a day.
His daughter moved around the corner from him 6 months ago from France. I thought it was to help care for him as he gets older and needs us around more.
His daughter has just recently met a guy and is marrying him and moving to Spain and leaving me with the responsibility of caring for her dad ( she will be leaving her daughter in uk ) but her daughter goes to college 5 days a week and then does a lot of studying on weekends.
I have had a chat with my aunt and told her I think she is being very selfish going off with a man she doesn’t even know and leaving me who is disabled anyway to look after him on a daily basis.
Now I love my grandad to bits but with my illness I’m finding it hard already and his care needs are only going to get greater but she just doesn’t seam to care about anybody but herself !!!!! She has even said well it’s life. After that comment none of us are going to the wedding of the year lol.
Am I in the wrong for expecting her to help look after her dad ?
Why should I do it all 7 days a week when she’s sunbathing in Spain with a man she has known for less than 12 weeks. She’s also told her daughter she needs to do more to help out her grandad !!!! ( she is a stranger to him ) I’ve told her she needs to take a leaf out of her own book as she is his daughter so she should be the one doing more. At this moment in time she is making me feel like I’m the one that is in the wrong just sending me messages telling me I need to stop ranting and even suggesting I go away on holiday cause I need a break. As I speak she is working away for 4 weeks and then coming home for 12 days and then going to Spain to see her new boyfriend for 2 weeks. I can’t even have a day away never mind a holiday and feel like she is just patronising me. She has even said she won’t fall out with me as she would be saying the same things to me so my head is messed up with her now even more