[phpBB Debug] PHP Warning: in file [ROOT]/phpbb/session.php on line 585: sizeof(): Parameter must be an array or an object that implements Countable
[phpBB Debug] PHP Warning: in file [ROOT]/phpbb/session.php on line 641: sizeof(): Parameter must be an array or an object that implements Countable
Caring for a jealous elderly mum - Page 2 - Carers UK Forum

Caring for a jealous elderly mum

Tell us a bit about yourself here.
By the way, if you worry about her being 'on her own' when you have your family holiday, why not start looking at places for her to go while you are away.

Care homes have a poor reputation, but the good ones are truly lovely! The second one my MIL was in was like a country hotel for OAPs! Great food, communal eating (or they could eat in their very nice rooms with lovely views down to the sea), and entertainment in the afternoon.

If she knows she is only there for a week or so while you are away, it is 'her' holiday as well.

And if she is still independent you may even find places that specialise in 'comfortable resorts' for the elderly, outwith any 'care home' environment.

You CANNOT be 'tied to her' - remember, she is only getting older, and you could be facing a time when she is MUCH frailer than she is now, both physically and, worst of all, mentally. My MIL was totally fine and independent until she was 89 - then dementia set in and she spent the last five years of her life in a care home completely. So, in a way, if your mum is good 'now' mentally, make the most of that!
Thanks very much for all your sensible advice Jenny and some really good ideas to consider. I was getting to the stage where I couldn’t see the wood for the trees. We have actually taken the first step and put blinds at the bedroom window. The stepping back will be more difficult, but needs to be done. Thanks again.
Hi Karen
Stepping back somewhat isn't stepping away forever. It's just getting your life back in balance and getting Mums more balanced too.

Or you could move, not far but out of sight at least :D
Stepping back somewhat isn't stepping away forever

Precisely -