Hi there
I have a 20 year old daughter who was diagnosed with BPD a couple of months ago. She is away at uni but is coming back to stay at home for her 3rd year work placement from end of May. She is currently at home for the Easter break. When she is at uni she is on the phone constantly and things are manageable. When she is back, it’s a nightmare. She has been home for only a few days and the tension in the house is already horrible and difficult. I have a younger daughter who my eldest has already criticised to the point of meltdown. Last time she was home it was my youngest birthday and my eldest managed to ruin this for her too. She is just horrible to her. It doesn’t matter what we do, how we approach her, how we try and talk to her, whether it’s softly or not, directly or not, she doesn’t get it and just sees it as a direct criticism of her and she kicks off and everything is even worse. The reality is she is bullying our youngest. I don’t use the word bullying lightly. We can’t allow this to happen but have no idea how to manage this. Any ideas or suggestions? We are open to anything! Eldest has basically said we have ostracised her so she has to stay in her room. Youngest is almost mute with distress. I also have an older son who is 30 and autistic. He lives in a residential. The world of mental health issues is not new to me at all. Life has always been colourful and complex. But these are definitely new challenges!
I have a 20 year old daughter who was diagnosed with BPD a couple of months ago. She is away at uni but is coming back to stay at home for her 3rd year work placement from end of May. She is currently at home for the Easter break. When she is at uni she is on the phone constantly and things are manageable. When she is back, it’s a nightmare. She has been home for only a few days and the tension in the house is already horrible and difficult. I have a younger daughter who my eldest has already criticised to the point of meltdown. Last time she was home it was my youngest birthday and my eldest managed to ruin this for her too. She is just horrible to her. It doesn’t matter what we do, how we approach her, how we try and talk to her, whether it’s softly or not, directly or not, she doesn’t get it and just sees it as a direct criticism of her and she kicks off and everything is even worse. The reality is she is bullying our youngest. I don’t use the word bullying lightly. We can’t allow this to happen but have no idea how to manage this. Any ideas or suggestions? We are open to anything! Eldest has basically said we have ostracised her so she has to stay in her room. Youngest is almost mute with distress. I also have an older son who is 30 and autistic. He lives in a residential. The world of mental health issues is not new to me at all. Life has always been colourful and complex. But these are definitely new challenges!