Becoming a Deputy for my Mum

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Our solicitor says Mum can't grant power of attorney to me, even though she wants to as she has aphasia following a stroke.
I'm scared that if it goes to the court of protection all power is going to be taken away from both of us?
I quit my job to care for Mum, we lead a simple life, she likes to eat out and have a glass of wine, we have Sky TV and BT Broadband....
Are the court of protection going to take control of Mum's money and make me account for every penny spent?
Hello,
I thought that the decision would be your mums to make, as long as she is able?
Has your solicitor said why?

I know there are people here with experience of these issues, so hopefully they'll be able to give you sound advice.
I'll make sure to follow what is said, since I probably need to consider this for myself and my mum.
Best wishes.
M.
I think you need a second opinion, but maybe others can advise where best to look for that.
Morning Greta
I'm going to PM you.
Try not to fret(not easy I know)
Pet66
Sorry Greta
I've miss understood. Head not on properly this morning.!
Hope you are well.
[quote="Stephen_16071"]Our solicitor says Mum can't grant power of attorney to me, even though she wants to as she has aphasia following a stroke.
I'm scared that if it goes to the court of protection all power is going to be taken away from both of us?
I quit my job to care for Mum, we lead a simple life, she likes to eat out and have a glass of wine, we have Sky TV and BT Broadband....
Are the court of protection going to take control of Mum's money and make me account for every penny spent?


Stephen
I will PM message you with a phone number. Display here,as I'm not sure if I'm advertising?
Pet66
Pet66,
No problem - I am very well and not doing badly otherwise! This is the second time recently we've read about what seems a hasty and superficial decision by a solicitor. It annoyed me. Thanks for stepping in.
Thank you all, normally it's family saying she's not fit and I want this and that. But it's our solicitor...
Both me and my sister agreed Mum is fit, but the solicitor has put us through hell, our own GP wrote a letter stating Mum is fit and capable...Not acceptable we have to pay for a specialist?

It's nearly six months since my Dad died and we haven't even come close to sorting out the estate because of our solicitors attitude towards my Mum......
Could you get another Solicitor Stephen ? Just because your Mum is aphasic after her stroke doesn't mean she can't communicate her wishes and intentions - there are means of communication other than the spoken word.
Exactly! There's a total difference between being physically incapable of speech, and being mentally incapable of thought! Obviously if your mother's stroke has adversely affected her cognition (ie, mental abilities), that might make it impossible for her to give 'informed consent' to anything, but if she knows perfectly well what is going on, and is mentally 'all there' then it's simply a case, as it would be for someone who is mute for example, of finding a way for her to communicate her wishes.

I don't see why you can't simply go to another solicitor! There's no 'contract' that says you have to stay with the one you've got!

Does your mum's GP think she has mental capacity in his medical opinion after her stroke?