Not sure how to go about this but here’s my attempt.
My father is 52 years old with Dementia as of 6 or potentially 7 years ago, sadly, he is in a care home. His illness was extremely sudden and being only 14 years old at the time I had little authority or understanding. However, I am older and wiser, branching into the world of care myself. Over the time he has been there the care has gradually declined with the typical influx of different Carers and management, recently I have noticed bruising and an more than usual agitated state, additionally, since new Carers have come he has been put back on anti depressants. My father no longer has speech nor any other way of communicating besides the odd facial expression or drastic behavioural changes when around particular Carers or desiring something (flinching or making loud noises). I have raised some concerns previously with the care home directly with no luck and now that there is currently no management I’m unsure who to turn to. Nevertheless, I am considering becoming his carer as I have the background and as many do, I love my dad and do not want the number of years he hasn’t left with me to be an ordeal. However, being 21 years old who has just freshly left university, I have little to offer in terms of a lifestyle if I do take him from the care home. More so, his mother still being alive has taken the role of ‘power of attorney’ but has agreed to sign it over when she is near her death bed (not far). Anyway, I want to know what resources or advice is out there for someone who does not have a house or flat suitable for someone with dementia, has no earnings for this and is young. Another factor may be no car. I know this may sound ridiculous and don’t expect the government to suddenly provide a place suitable for him that I also can live in to be his carer, wages for both myself and my dad to live (note, I would not be able to work part time as he has a 24hour one to one carer and I’d have to provide the same) more so, any sort of transport or training to be more suited if necessary. I’m at a lost and can’t stop thinking about all the things wrong with where he is, the struggles to move him and figuring out if a new place is caring correctly, worse or the same as the prior, also, wanting to so badly take him myself but don’t even know where to begin. Any and all advice is welcome, also, feel free to ask more in-depth question if additional information is needed to give a detailed answer.
My father is 52 years old with Dementia as of 6 or potentially 7 years ago, sadly, he is in a care home. His illness was extremely sudden and being only 14 years old at the time I had little authority or understanding. However, I am older and wiser, branching into the world of care myself. Over the time he has been there the care has gradually declined with the typical influx of different Carers and management, recently I have noticed bruising and an more than usual agitated state, additionally, since new Carers have come he has been put back on anti depressants. My father no longer has speech nor any other way of communicating besides the odd facial expression or drastic behavioural changes when around particular Carers or desiring something (flinching or making loud noises). I have raised some concerns previously with the care home directly with no luck and now that there is currently no management I’m unsure who to turn to. Nevertheless, I am considering becoming his carer as I have the background and as many do, I love my dad and do not want the number of years he hasn’t left with me to be an ordeal. However, being 21 years old who has just freshly left university, I have little to offer in terms of a lifestyle if I do take him from the care home. More so, his mother still being alive has taken the role of ‘power of attorney’ but has agreed to sign it over when she is near her death bed (not far). Anyway, I want to know what resources or advice is out there for someone who does not have a house or flat suitable for someone with dementia, has no earnings for this and is young. Another factor may be no car. I know this may sound ridiculous and don’t expect the government to suddenly provide a place suitable for him that I also can live in to be his carer, wages for both myself and my dad to live (note, I would not be able to work part time as he has a 24hour one to one carer and I’d have to provide the same) more so, any sort of transport or training to be more suited if necessary. I’m at a lost and can’t stop thinking about all the things wrong with where he is, the struggles to move him and figuring out if a new place is caring correctly, worse or the same as the prior, also, wanting to so badly take him myself but don’t even know where to begin. Any and all advice is welcome, also, feel free to ask more in-depth question if additional information is needed to give a detailed answer.