Hi I am new on here but thought join as I am really struggling. Back in 2017 my husband and father in law made a decision to live together, I had said no but decision was taken out my hands. At this time We had been married just over a year and had a 1 year old. The idea was we would use the back room and conservatory and the main living room could be for us all until we converted Garage.
My husband had no idea how hard it would be as his father took residence in middle room and isolated himself from everyone and started not looking after himself in the 1st year he was hospitalised 3 times and although we tried to get help he sent the intermediate carers away. His mobility has since declined as refused to move from one chair, the situation has now got worse his general hygiene is poor and he is absolutely filthy. Despite advice on his diabetes and other health issues he ignores it therefore his diabetes is now uncontrolled affecting his eyes and causing vascular disease. He suffers anxiety and depression and has been prone to urinary infections causing confusion. He has fallen several times but I cannot safely assist him up as he wont help.
I now have a 3 year old and a 3 month old and I'm finding this situation unbearable I worry for the children as he leaves his tablets and insulin around and he frequently leaves puddles of urine and faeces on bath room floors. I hugely resent my husband as impacting our relationship and I find myself juggling to keep house clean and safe.
My husband is finally getting to understand how bad things are but really needs some support and advice . I just know something needs to change.
Do any of you know the best way of seeking advice and help
My husband had no idea how hard it would be as his father took residence in middle room and isolated himself from everyone and started not looking after himself in the 1st year he was hospitalised 3 times and although we tried to get help he sent the intermediate carers away. His mobility has since declined as refused to move from one chair, the situation has now got worse his general hygiene is poor and he is absolutely filthy. Despite advice on his diabetes and other health issues he ignores it therefore his diabetes is now uncontrolled affecting his eyes and causing vascular disease. He suffers anxiety and depression and has been prone to urinary infections causing confusion. He has fallen several times but I cannot safely assist him up as he wont help.
I now have a 3 year old and a 3 month old and I'm finding this situation unbearable I worry for the children as he leaves his tablets and insulin around and he frequently leaves puddles of urine and faeces on bath room floors. I hugely resent my husband as impacting our relationship and I find myself juggling to keep house clean and safe.
My husband is finally getting to understand how bad things are but really needs some support and advice . I just know something needs to change.
Do any of you know the best way of seeking advice and help