Hi! I am not yet a carer but may be about to be one very soon. I wonder if anyone can offer me their opinion or advice please?
My father is not blind but has poor vision. He is also quite deaf and trips over easily. He also has COPD so can't walk too far without being breathless. He has been managed ok with my Mum as she has helped him and looked out for him until recently.
Sadly she had a fall and ended up for 4 weeks in a hospital 2 months ago and is now in a hospice and is not expected to come home again.
My Father came to stay with me for the first 2 weeks and we thought that was going to be the 'crisis' time with Mum and then it would all get sorted out and eventually they would both be back at home but with some support in place.
My father didn't get on too well living in my home as he found the stairs difficult to climb and I don't have a downstairs toilet. So he has now been living with my sister.
Unfortunately she doesn't have a big house but her and her husband and daughter have managed until now.
The problem coming up is that my nephew will soon return from University for the Summer holidays and he will want his room back that my Dad currently occupies. Dad is also a lot of work for my sister as she works full time. Myself and my daughter have helped when we can but I don't have a car and I am also a widow and live on my own so I not have immediate back up support.
We have talked to Dad and he says that he should go back to his own home and we get to him as often as we can but his home is not near by. It's in the same town but right across the city from where myself and my sister live. I am trying to find sheltered accommodation for him but that's taking some time.
I am worried about him being back home on his own and I know that I cannot be there every day. He has expressed concern at being in his own at night!
I am about to talk to his GP and trying to get a social worker but other than that, I am at my wits end knowing what's the best to do!
I have already been a carer as I nursed my husband at home before he died from cancer a few years ago so I am also very anxious about taking on a carers role again. I live alone and don't have a car so worry about being isolated and stuck in an emergency.
I would be really grateful for any help or advice anyone could offer to me!
Thanks.
My father is not blind but has poor vision. He is also quite deaf and trips over easily. He also has COPD so can't walk too far without being breathless. He has been managed ok with my Mum as she has helped him and looked out for him until recently.
Sadly she had a fall and ended up for 4 weeks in a hospital 2 months ago and is now in a hospice and is not expected to come home again.
My Father came to stay with me for the first 2 weeks and we thought that was going to be the 'crisis' time with Mum and then it would all get sorted out and eventually they would both be back at home but with some support in place.
My father didn't get on too well living in my home as he found the stairs difficult to climb and I don't have a downstairs toilet. So he has now been living with my sister.
Unfortunately she doesn't have a big house but her and her husband and daughter have managed until now.
The problem coming up is that my nephew will soon return from University for the Summer holidays and he will want his room back that my Dad currently occupies. Dad is also a lot of work for my sister as she works full time. Myself and my daughter have helped when we can but I don't have a car and I am also a widow and live on my own so I not have immediate back up support.
We have talked to Dad and he says that he should go back to his own home and we get to him as often as we can but his home is not near by. It's in the same town but right across the city from where myself and my sister live. I am trying to find sheltered accommodation for him but that's taking some time.
I am worried about him being back home on his own and I know that I cannot be there every day. He has expressed concern at being in his own at night!
I am about to talk to his GP and trying to get a social worker but other than that, I am at my wits end knowing what's the best to do!
I have already been a carer as I nursed my husband at home before he died from cancer a few years ago so I am also very anxious about taking on a carers role again. I live alone and don't have a car so worry about being isolated and stuck in an emergency.
I would be really grateful for any help or advice anyone could offer to me!
Thanks.