Melly
I doubt you could ever upset me!! I value friends too much for a well meaning thought like yours to bother me.
I think its a fabulous idea for anyone who would take comfort from such things. My hairdresser lost her son 4months ago, only 28, so cruel. She is having teddies made up from some of his clothes. Each member of the family will have one. Poignant.
I can easily get to the cemetery, my sister and myself go although not regularly. DD goes sometimes. Hubby definitely wouldn't want us fretting about a headstone etc, and it was his wish for cremation. Sadly he never expressed a wish as to his ashes.