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What happens next after caring ends? - Carers UK Forum

What happens next after caring ends?

For anyone who is bereaved or no longer providing care.
Hi, I am new on this forum. In 2010 my dad died in hospital and I gave up work to look after my Mum which she had Parkinson's Disease since 1998, and 19th July 2021 she passed away at home in my care after 11 years of caring for her.
It's not be easy since her death, keep thinking of her everyday, the last two weeks have be weird knowing that she is not here anymore. How long do I grieve for? When do I find work again? Carers allowance money comes to an end next month after eight weeks of my Mums death.
Anyone in the same situation as me or how have you got threw this?
What happens next after caring ends?
STEPHEN_2108 wrote:
Sun Aug 01, 2021 10:06 am
Hi, I am new on this forum. In 2010 my dad died in hospital and I gave up work to look after my Mum which she had Parkinson's Disease since 1998, and 19th July 2021 she passed away at home in my care after 11 years of caring for her.
It's not be easy since her death, keep thinking of her everyday, the last two weeks have be weird knowing that she is not here anymore. How long do I grieve for? When do I find work again? Carers allowance money comes to an end next month after eight weeks of my Mums death.
Anyone in the same situation as me or how have you got threw this?
What happens next after caring ends?
Hi Stephen,

welcome to the forum.

Condolences on the loss of your Mum. You ask how long your grieve for. Well their is no set time for grieving, everyone is different and there is no right or wrong way to do it.

Others on here have experience of this and will be along to offer support.

In the meantime, you might find this information helpful https://www.carersuk.org/help-and-advic ... ter-caring

Melly1
15 years ago my husband died unexpectedly in his sleep, from a massive heart attack, when he was 58, I was 54.
I was really in a state of shock for a long time.
On the other hand dad died of prostate cancer, and mum died at 87 from a multitude of illnesses, I could not wish her to live another day, she was so ill. My lovely sister in law died of dementia and a stroke, my brother from pancreatic cancer.
I loved them all. Their loss is especially hard at family occasions when I have the feeling "they should be here". However, they all live on in my heart, as mum will in yours.
Sometimes when I'm doing something, I just know what they would be saying about the situation, like a parrot on my shoulder.
Be kind to yourself, concentrate on making yourself well again, try to get some exercise, sleep well, eat well.
Look on ebay and you should find a book called "Starting Again" by Sarah Litvinoff. I found it very helpful in directing my thoughts, although primarily for divorcees, so much is applicable to anyone grieving too.
Stephen
I too have lost parents a sister, a nephew who died from cot death at 4months, and most recently my lovely husband who suffered strokes, vascular dementia and other health issues. I think of my husband every day, in fact he is rarely from my mind. I've learned to adjust to the different way of life. Take one day at a time,. Grief hopefully will change to happier memories, with the saddest times getting less. Time to look after yourself now. Phone the job centre perhaps and explain your situation. They should give advice.