I recently lost my sweet mum three weeks ago and still in shock. I had been my mum's main carer (unpaid) and she was with me. I feel really sad, lost without her - we shared so many lovely memories together despite her Parkinson's Disease and Rhemutoid Arthertis. I miss our morning routines, brushing her teeth, combing her hair. She was my sweet little doll. I've been told by my social housing that I need to vacate our property within 28 days and I feel so helpless and don't know what to do. : ( I just turned 39 earlier this week and my whole life has been around mum. Is there anyone that can help me please?? Thanks, xx
Mira, firstly, condolences on the loss of your mum - when someone we love dies, even if it was a 'merciful release' at all, we still feel that huge gaping gap in our lives. I always say 'Absence has a presence' - ie, we 'feel' them there, but they are not, and it hurts, hurts, hurts.
On practical issues, ie, your accommodation, there is a lot of cumulative experience here on the forum, but it might be a good idea to repost your question in a thread of its own, eg, on All About Caring, perhaps, as more people wil lsee it and be able to respond.
You might also think it a good idea to email the team of experts at Carers uK (emailing is better than the busy Helpline apparently) to get their feedback on what your position is now, and if you can stay longer. It seems very harsh to expect you to move out, when you are only just beginning to cope with losing your mum. I hope a solution can be found.
Kindest wishes to you, at this sad time. It sounds like your mum had a devoted daughter indeed.....