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Tue Sep 14, 2010 4:53 pm
Hello everyone,
My dear friend and neighbour, John died on 2nd July so I am no longer a carer. He had no relatives and left his house to relatives of his wife who died many years ago. These people live in Holland and only came to England once in 2O years and did not visit my neighbour on that one visit. He was upset about it. After he died but before he was buried they came over and it was horrible to see and hear them laughing over his things and chucking so many of his treasures in the bin. Vultures.
The solicitor came over and took a look round the house. She then asked if I would go to see her at the office `to help clear up a few things, since I knew John better than anyone`.
When I went to the office I was questioned as though I might have been guilty of some wrong doing. John gave me some money before he died and I was questioned extensively about this. Why did he do it, how could they know that he had given it me willingly and in knowledge of what he was doing, why had I not insisted that he contact a solicitor first, on and on it went for nearly two hours. There were two solicitors who wrote down everything I said. I was asked to return the money, told that the beneficiary would be entitled to ask the solicitor to recover it for them. It was horrible and I was in tears. The very man I would have gone to for advice was no longer there. John would have said `Tell them` and if I said I had told them he would have said `Give me the phone I will tell them myself. He would be so upset that no-one seems to care about what he wanted. No-one cared for him or about him as I did.
I have not returned the money and they will have to fight me for it if the beneficiary does not care either for respecting John`s wishes. I am waiting to hear. I prefer John rather than any money. In the end, neighbours and everyone he had known deserted him. Yes he could be a difficult man but I knew him deep down and he was such a good person. I miss him more than I can say.
Best wishes,
Kathleen
My dear friend and neighbour, John died on 2nd July so I am no longer a carer. He had no relatives and left his house to relatives of his wife who died many years ago. These people live in Holland and only came to England once in 2O years and did not visit my neighbour on that one visit. He was upset about it. After he died but before he was buried they came over and it was horrible to see and hear them laughing over his things and chucking so many of his treasures in the bin. Vultures.
The solicitor came over and took a look round the house. She then asked if I would go to see her at the office `to help clear up a few things, since I knew John better than anyone`.
When I went to the office I was questioned as though I might have been guilty of some wrong doing. John gave me some money before he died and I was questioned extensively about this. Why did he do it, how could they know that he had given it me willingly and in knowledge of what he was doing, why had I not insisted that he contact a solicitor first, on and on it went for nearly two hours. There were two solicitors who wrote down everything I said. I was asked to return the money, told that the beneficiary would be entitled to ask the solicitor to recover it for them. It was horrible and I was in tears. The very man I would have gone to for advice was no longer there. John would have said `Tell them` and if I said I had told them he would have said `Give me the phone I will tell them myself. He would be so upset that no-one seems to care about what he wanted. No-one cared for him or about him as I did.
I have not returned the money and they will have to fight me for it if the beneficiary does not care either for respecting John`s wishes. I am waiting to hear. I prefer John rather than any money. In the end, neighbours and everyone he had known deserted him. Yes he could be a difficult man but I knew him deep down and he was such a good person. I miss him more than I can say.
Best wishes,
Kathleen
