I lost my father nearly two weeks ago now. I am totally devastated. I cared for him nearly 24/7 for the past year and a bit as a result of him being diagnosed with a terminal illness. My mother also provided care for my father for the past year and I am really worried about her. We have had the committal and the service earlier in the week. My mother who has been married to my father for 58 years, seems to not recognise what has happened. It's almost like life carries on as normal and she has not shown very much emotion. This is a first time for me, I miss caring for my father in every single intimate way, and I have not lost anyone so close before. My priority now should be supporting my mother, but I just do not know how to. She needs love and support but it is almost being reflected off me. I do not know what to do. Can anyone provide any advice please? Thank you. Paul.
I was widowed suddenly when I was 54, my husband 58. I have also lost all four of our parents and my brother. Each bereavement has been different. Grief and recovery is a long road. Maybe search on Google for some information about the grief process, it might help you both. I suspect mum is still in shock.
For the moment, for both of you, just live day to day. Has all the disability equipment gone? Presumably you are dealing with the paperwork. Do you have Power of Attorney for mum?