Hi Snowblue,
Please accept my deepest condolences on the loss of your husband.
To have this added stress on top of your grieving must be hard to take.
This is so personal but without further information its difficult to know what has happened.
I dont really want to upset you any further than you already will be but without knowing more details it is hard to know how to help you,such as was your hubby at home or in hospital and the reason for the delay for the funeral.
If at home your doctor should be able to advise and if in hospital the administrator who handles these matters should be able to help you.
Please look at these next links,you may find something of benefit.
http://www.carersuk.org/Information/Whe ... persondies
The funeral
The funeral can be very important in helping you and friends and family of the deceased to mourn. It is an event when the person’s life can be thought of, valued, and clebrated. It is a time to think of the person who lived, and not just the difficulties of the last few weeks, months or years spent caring for them.
Arranging the funeral
When the funeral takes place may depend on factors such as religious or cultural requirements. Aside from that, the funeral or cremation does not have to happen immediately, unless that is what you want. In any case, you will not be able to finalise the date until the death has been registered. When planning the funeral, you should find out whether the deceased left any instructions about their funeral in a Will or other written document. Other than that you can choose between burial, cremation or alternative burials of various sorts and, if you choose to use one, a professional funeral director will help you make the arrangements. There is further information about these options at www.ifishoulddie.co.uk
Paying for the funeral
Funeral costs can be quite high so it is worth obtaining quotes from more than one funeral director. Make sure that everything has been included (church or other venue for the service, burial or cremation fees, cars for the mourners, flowers etc.) You can ask for written quotations.
If you arrange the funeral, you will be the person responsible for ensuring the fees are paid, so it is sensible to check in advance if the deceased had money available to cover the funeral costs. You could check their paperwork to find out]www.direct.gov.uk[/url] or apply at your local Jobcentre Plus office.
That link also has a lot more relevant information regarding payments possibly due to yourself.
This next section gives a list of Cruse Bereavement branches in London.Contact the one local to you as they may have more information that will help you.
London
Bexley Branch 020 8304 5245
Croydon Branch 020 8916 0855
Greenwich Branch 020 8850 0505
Hillingdon Branch 01895 811 330
Kensington and Chelsea Branch 020 8964 3455 Kensington & Chelsea
North London Branch 020 8340 1716 North London
Richmond-upon-Thames Branch 020 8876 0417
Is the delay for the service due to lack of funds or something else.
Please use the private message facility if you would prefer not to answer on the open forum but please please keep us posted.Once a carer always a carer and we will try help you through this.
Do you have any family or friends to help support you?
Be strong Snowblue,
Rosemary
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