Tue Apr 29, 2008 12:00 am
Hi Bill,
my dad is going through a very similar situation to your own. After my mum died last year, he has been at a loose end. He still wakes up at the time he used to to give my mum her medication, even though he doesnt have to anymore (i guess old habits, die hard).
With regards to work, my dad had to give it up 12 years ago to look after my mum and myself and my sisters and is most definately not work shy. However he is still not ready to get back into work (despite the job centre pursuing the idea), he still attends the local carers drop in centre, whom have suggested maybe slowly getting back into work, by starting off doing something on a voluntary basis, which he is considering.
From my experience many people whom have never had caring responsibilities, do not seem to understand that you cant suddenly stop being a carer. Just because the person you were once caring for is no longer around, does not mean that you are not still a carer, there is a great need for such services (i.e. the jobcentre) to be educated on such situations.
Anyway i just wanted to let you know that you are not on your own, even though at times it may feel that way.
Take Care
vicky
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my dad is going through a very similar situation to your own. After my mum died last year, he has been at a loose end. He still wakes up at the time he used to to give my mum her medication, even though he doesnt have to anymore (i guess old habits, die hard).
With regards to work, my dad had to give it up 12 years ago to look after my mum and myself and my sisters and is most definately not work shy. However he is still not ready to get back into work (despite the job centre pursuing the idea), he still attends the local carers drop in centre, whom have suggested maybe slowly getting back into work, by starting off doing something on a voluntary basis, which he is considering.
From my experience many people whom have never had caring responsibilities, do not seem to understand that you cant suddenly stop being a carer. Just because the person you were once caring for is no longer around, does not mean that you are not still a carer, there is a great need for such services (i.e. the jobcentre) to be educated on such situations.
Anyway i just wanted to let you know that you are not on your own, even though at times it may feel that way.
Take Care
vicky
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