Pet, you were fortunate to see your husband passing away gently, I'd keep that as your last memory.
I found my husband dead in bed, I wanted my final memory to be different. I'm glad I went to see him at the funeral directors, in peace, wearing his favourite travelling clothes.
I was dismayed to see that his "preparations" had included trimming his eyebrows?! No idea why, they were fine as they were.
It's OK for the family to see you cry, one day my eldest son and I just had a big hugging and crying session, something that never happened before or since. In the weeks that followed, we would ask each other "You OK?" and it was OK to say "No, I'm really struggling/having a bad day".
I accepted any invite to events, but always said to whoever had invited me, not to worry if I just sat in a corner and didn't say much, or disappeared without saying anything. This really worked for me.
I found my husband dead in bed, I wanted my final memory to be different. I'm glad I went to see him at the funeral directors, in peace, wearing his favourite travelling clothes.
I was dismayed to see that his "preparations" had included trimming his eyebrows?! No idea why, they were fine as they were.
It's OK for the family to see you cry, one day my eldest son and I just had a big hugging and crying session, something that never happened before or since. In the weeks that followed, we would ask each other "You OK?" and it was OK to say "No, I'm really struggling/having a bad day".
I accepted any invite to events, but always said to whoever had invited me, not to worry if I just sat in a corner and didn't say much, or disappeared without saying anything. This really worked for me.