Cruse Bereavement

For anyone who is bereaved or no longer providing care.
I emailed Cruse Bereavement six days ago but haven't heard back. Is that normal or should I try again. I'm not quite ready to talk to someone on the phone yet.
https://www.cruse.org.uk/get-help/about ... g-yourself

Sorry to read you are in a state of bereavement. Please feel is OK to talk here. There are many who could perhaps offer understanding.

I would certainly send another email.

There appears to be a lot of info re: phone calls but not emails.

https://www.cruse.org.uk/get-help/helpl ... struggling
Hi Brian,
I don't remember waiting that long for an initial reply when I used their email service several years ago, so I checked online and read,
Email service We are currently experiencing very high demand and our email services are suspended until we can catch up with the backlog. We are very sorry for any inconvenience this causes. Our telephone helpline services are still available during this time.
I agree with Sunnydisposition, if you want to post about it on here, we will do our best to support. We have several bereaved members currently and there are quite a few ex-carers too who have lost their carees in the past.

Melly1

PS I will contact Lizzie Carers UK and see if they know of any other online/email bereavement services.
Would have been nice for Cruise to have set up an autoreply to say the email service was closed, rather than leaving prospective clients in limbo when they're seeking help.
Yes, there are some of us here in various stages of bereavement.
Some very recently, others a year or more, so plenty of help here if needed.
I think this link might have been posted on the forum before and I thought it might be useful to mention it again. A clip from a BBC programme. addressing the subject of grief is still available here
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/av/stories-4 ... o-get-over.

Brian, I am sorry for your loss. I am not posting this as a direct answer to you, because it isn't, but in case it is helpful to anyone reading this thread.

I am one of the bereaved here; after Christmas I will have been widowed for two years and if I can help by joining in a discussion I will.
Hello Brian
I lost my husband in May. Sometimes I write my thoughts on my thread, end of dementia journey start of??
Don't know if it will help you, but like others Im here to listen to you, if you feel up to sharing..
Mum died in May 2017. Still suffering......
Melly1 wrote:
Mon Oct 07, 2019 9:07 pm
Hi Brian,
I don't remember waiting that long for an initial reply when I used their email service several years ago, so I checked online and read,
Email service We are currently experiencing very high demand and our email services are suspended until we can catch up with the backlog. We are very sorry for any inconvenience this causes. Our telephone helpline services are still available during this time.
I agree with Sunnydisposition, if you want to post about it on here, we will do our best to support. We have several bereaved members currently and there are quite a few ex-carers too who have lost their carees in the past.

Melly1

PS I will contact Lizzie Carers UK and see if they know of any other online/email bereavement services.
Thanks Melly1. I suppose that explains it.

Thanks to everyone else who replied as well. So many of us suffering. I'm having a really bad time. I talk to my mum a lot throughout the day. it feels like she's listening. Waves of grief and sudden grief attacks happen all the time. It will be four weeks on Thursday and I don't think I've made any progress. I closed her bank/savings accounts today, I suppose I left it a bit late. I started sobbing when I saw her name handwritten on the savings book. The woman was nice and made me a cup of tea. Almost anything can set me off.
Brian_19011 wrote:
Tue Oct 08, 2019 7:59 pm
Melly1 wrote:
Mon Oct 07, 2019 9:07 pm
Hi Brian,
I don't remember waiting that long for an initial reply when I used their email service several years ago, so I checked online and read,
Email service We are currently experiencing very high demand and our email services are suspended until we can catch up with the backlog. We are very sorry for any inconvenience this causes. Our telephone helpline services are still available during this time.
I agree with Sunnydisposition, if you want to post about it on here, we will do our best to support. We have several bereaved members currently and there are quite a few ex-carers too who have lost their carees in the past.

Melly1

PS I will contact Lizzie Carers UK and see if they know of any other online/email bereavement services.
Thanks Melly1. I suppose that explains it.

Thanks to everyone else who replied as well. So many of us suffering. I'm having a really bad time. I talk to my mum a lot throughout the day. it feels like she's listening. Waves of grief and sudden grief attacks happen all the time. It will be four weeks on Thursday and I don't think I've made any progress. I closed her bank/savings accounts today, I suppose I left it a bit late. I started sobbing when I saw her name handwritten on the savings book. The woman was nice and made me a cup of tea. Almost anything can set me off.
Are you seeing a therapist?

Honestly it is a good idea since grief is a funny emotion. There is no one size fits all or a simple fix. Allow yourself to feel then release. And remember talking helps you cope better with it all. There are five stages of this unpredictable emotion.

Read this article on grief https://www.helpguide.org/articles/grie ... d-loss.htm.

Join a support group. It is a great way to meet new people who also have experienced grief. Trust me it makes a difference. Ask on Facebook or ask around for suggestions.

Try to maintain your hobbies and interests. Be it fishing, crocheting etc. Take care of yourself. Write a burn letter to your deceased loved one. Embrace your emotions.