Hi, I'm new here. I've been caring for my Dad for the last 4 years.
My mum passed away from cancer in 2016 and as my Dad suffers from COPD (and he had pneumonia at the time of my mum's death) I moved into their house to care for him. Dad is now end-stage COPD, with heart failure and is palliative but his dementia is getting worse and it's becoming more and more difficult to care for him at home. He's strong and a fighter, he's battled his way back from the brink a few times and I feel he could go on for a good year or two yet.
I work part-time and have two children. We have paid carers coming in 3 times a day but only to help with body washes and pad changes as Dad is double incontinent.
It's getting to the point where I feel a nursing home might be the best option. I've spoken to our local council who seem to think Dad's house might not be taken into consideration when they do the finance assessment because I live there with his grandkids and moved in to provide care for Dad. Has anyone else any experience of this please? I don't want to lose the house. Dad does have savings of around £28k so would be able to self-fund for awhile. I'm nervous about starting the process in case they say we have to sell the house, I don't mind about the money.
Also I'm not sure my Dad will agree to going into a nursing home, but as he is lacking mental capacity am I still able to make the decision alongside say a social worker or health care adviser? The district nurse who visits weekly agrees a nursing home would be a good idea.
My mum passed away from cancer in 2016 and as my Dad suffers from COPD (and he had pneumonia at the time of my mum's death) I moved into their house to care for him. Dad is now end-stage COPD, with heart failure and is palliative but his dementia is getting worse and it's becoming more and more difficult to care for him at home. He's strong and a fighter, he's battled his way back from the brink a few times and I feel he could go on for a good year or two yet.
I work part-time and have two children. We have paid carers coming in 3 times a day but only to help with body washes and pad changes as Dad is double incontinent.
It's getting to the point where I feel a nursing home might be the best option. I've spoken to our local council who seem to think Dad's house might not be taken into consideration when they do the finance assessment because I live there with his grandkids and moved in to provide care for Dad. Has anyone else any experience of this please? I don't want to lose the house. Dad does have savings of around £28k so would be able to self-fund for awhile. I'm nervous about starting the process in case they say we have to sell the house, I don't mind about the money.
Also I'm not sure my Dad will agree to going into a nursing home, but as he is lacking mental capacity am I still able to make the decision alongside say a social worker or health care adviser? The district nurse who visits weekly agrees a nursing home would be a good idea.