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How to survive as a carer? - Carers UK Forum

How to survive as a carer?

All about money
I'm currently 25 and have been a full time carer for both of my parents for just over 2 years. When I started caring for them I lived with them and started claiming carers allowance. However because my mum is physically disabled she needed to move into a bungalow as she couldn't climb the stairs anymore. My mum and dad moved into a bungalow but couldn't take me with them as they could only get a 1 bedroom bungalow. I took over the tenancy of their old council house. I've been there for 6 months now and I just don't know what to do. I'm in receipt of carers allowance and get £250 a month of them. I also get £450 a month from Universal Credit, I don't have to look for work as I'm on the carers element of UC and I get housing benefit through UC too which is included in the £450 I recieve. It's not a lot because UC is cancelled out by the CA so I just get the housing and carer's elements. I just don't know how I am expected to pay all of my bills and clothe myself, afford public transport to my mum and dad's house every day and still have enough money left over for food! I'm currently skipping meals and having to walk 2 hours to my parents house to care for them before walking another 2 hours in the dark at night back home. I really don't know what to do. I think the government must think that all carer's are married and have extra income. I am struggling with depression, anxiety and I am struggling so much, as if being carer wasn't hard enough!
Hi Victoria
You could speak to the carers UK help line. Additionally, are you able to go to your local Citizens advice. They could look through your entitlements and check your benefits. Universal credit should work the same as previous benefits i.e. grouping together what you are entitled to. However, claimants are expected to check all the information. If you don't really know what you can claim it difficult for you to be able to challenge.

https://www.gov.uk/benefits-calculators
https://benefits-calculator.turn2us.org.uk/AboutYou
Try these calculators and see if it helps at all.
https://carers.org/article/money-and-be ... gLTOfD_BwE

Can you parents help towards your transport?
You can get travel help if a disabled person is with you. Each LA rules are different.
If you were able to take up a short term/evenings etc college course. You might be able to get student travels costs.
You could contact charities who will give some help/grants towards public transport.
Hi Victoria,
I was very alarmed to read your posting, it's simply not fair that you have been left to look after your parents in this way.

Carers UK has a brilliant helpline and I suggest that you ring or email them asap, email is usually easiest, they will get back to you usually within a week.
I'm puzzled as to the housing situation. You are in their house, and they are in a one bedroom place? Do they own or rent both places? Are you now officially the council tenant, or did they buy their council house? Did they not ever think about how you could afford it?!
Please ask Social Services to arrange a Carers Assessment for you as soon as possible, to discuss your situation. Did SS do a Needs Assessment for mum? Has anyone explained that you can still have the Carers Allowance if outside carers help too?
If mum and dad need you to care for them, then THEY should be paying your fares etc., not you - if you are entitled to CA that means mum must be claiming Attendance Allowance, which is to pay for the extra care she needs!!!
However, these are all temporary issues. You should be allowed to have a life of your own, not just expected to care for mum. Talk to the person doing your Carers Assessment, aimed at getting your life back
Victoria try and reduce you out goings...
https://www.moneysupermarket.com/gas-an ... l-tariffs/
Some utility providers give discounts/warm home discounts.
Contact your water company who may provide discounts for low income and single person supplements.
How do you manage to keep up with everything and survive as a carer? I'm doing my doctoral research and have to buy dissertation references, need to pay for my tuition and keep up with my intern's duties.
Hi,

I'm pursuing my second PhD degree and caring for both parents. It's not easy, but I'm trying to be positive about each day spent with them.
Hope and faith save me from negative thoughts.
Francesco_2106 wrote:
Fri Jun 04, 2021 7:38 am
How do you manage to keep up with everything and survive as a carer? I'm doing my doctoral research and have to buy dissertation references, need to pay for my tuition and keep up with my intern's duties.
Hi,

I'm pursuing my second PhD degree and caring for both parents. It's not easy, but I'm trying to be positive about each day spent with them.
Hope and faith save me from negative thoughts.
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