Thinking of giving up work to care full time,advice please

All about money
I am 56,I work full time and bring home about 1250 a month,my wife is 53,has a number of long term medical conditions and mobility problems but sometimes the medical problems become acute,I often have to take time off work which is not fair on my employer and I feel very guilty about this,is it practical to give up work and care full time?.What benefits can I get?
Don't do it!
Arrange care for your wife. You are classed as "disabled by association" and your employers have a duty to make reasonable adjustments for you, as if you yourself were disabled. Google "Coleman case constructive dismissal" for more information.
Make sure your wife has an updated "Needs Assessment" from Social Services and you have a "Carers Assessment". Then the LA can look at ways they can support you to keep working.
Andrew_1703 wrote:is it practical to give up work and care full time?.What benefits can I get?
If your wife is in receipt of a qualifying benefit then you might be able to claim Carers Allowance - currently £62.10 per week. Check out the Carers UK factsheet on the subject here - ... -allowance

Depending on other factors like savings either of you may also be entitled to other benefits but as I'm certainly no expert I suggest that you contact the Carers UK Adviceline team who will be able to advise you based on your circumstances. But it's unlikely that benefits will amount to anything like the amount you are currently earning.
Need expert advice? You can talk to the Carers UK Adviceline five days a week, no matter where you are in the UK or how complex your query is. We do benefits checks and advise on financial and practical matters related to caring.

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The Carers UK Adviceline also includes a listening service, there for you to talk through your caring situation with a trained volunteer who understands what you are going through. Available Mondays and Tuesdays, from 9am to 7pm.

If you can’t get through on the phones (lines are often oversubscribed) then send them an email, they’ll usually get back to you within 3-5 working days.

However what I would suggest that you think carefully about giving up work completely - in theory it might seem like a good idea, but how will you feel further down the line when you no longer have the 'escape' of going to work and when you lose the social interaction with work colleagues ? Being a full time carer frequently leads to feelings of isolation and depression.
I'm afraid I'm with BB on this. I know it's a huge 'urge' to throw in the work towel and be 'at home' to 'solve the problem' but it comes with HUGE risks.

Poverty (for the rest of your life!) is only one of them. There is huge stress in being a full time carer, because it can be SO hard to 'get away'. Many folk here report that only when they are at work can they feel their stress levels dropping - it becomes their 'lifeline to normality'.

It's an INCREDIBLY difficult situation when you want to 'tear yourself in half' (or rather, duplicate yourself!) and there are NO 'easy answers' (except a miraculous cure for your life!!!!), so it's always going to be a 'bodge' between all sorts of conflicting factors - money/freedom/love/happiness/stress etc etc etc.

Putting it bluntly, from a financial point of view, being a full time carer for a relative is a ticket to poverty, because the government expects us to do it just about 'for free'.

One thing you might consider is exploring 'early retirement'. You might find that an acceptable financial compromise. Your income will of course reduce (a reduced pension, taken early), but it may be less of a reduction than resorting to the pathetic amount of benefits you'll get as a full time carer. (Ironically, local councils are happy to pay up to a hundred pounds a DAY to put someone in a residential home - but WILL NOT pay even a tiny fraction of that to family carers to do the same amount of care - it's something like £62 a week paid to family carers, vs several hundred pounds a week for residential care. Where's the sense in that?)
Hi. I know everybodys situation is different, but I gave up work 5 months ago to look after mum. I,m 45 & she's 76. I'm lucky enough to be in a financial situation to have left work. I was more stressed at work, wondering how she was, even with 3 carers a day & now not so. I can go out for 3/4 hrs to socialise if I wanted.
I have been a carer for 37 years, my advice was based on my experience. I have another friend who cared for his mum until she the age 0f 104. Don't just look at the short term, think about how you would feel after 10, 15, or 20 years!