After a lot of heart searching we made the decision to move our son into a local care home. He has autism and severe learning difficulties and challenging behaviour.
Until now we thought we had made a 'good' choice. He appeared to be doing well apart from the odd blip. The manager seems to know her stuff and has lots of experience and has said that they are delighted with the progress he is making.
He comes home every weekend and when we went to pick him up the deputy manager asked me to step into the office. She then presented me with a catalogue of our sons behaviours, including he went to punch a member of staff (he has never ever shown that behaviour), it takes 4 staff to shower him (he loves water)he is throwing furniture and has thrown his beloved portable tv/video. She was disparaging about another parent 'if his daughter clicks her fingers Dad jumps' She also questioned the amount of meds our son takes (a very low dose) and she feels he should be on more. She also said many of the staff are afraid of him.
I was gobsmacked, I have always found her a bit sharp and tried to avoid her on visits but I am now wondering if she is being honest and the manager is glossing over incidents.
We are off on a long awaited first proper holiday in years on Tuesday and Im now very worried about him.
Until now we thought we had made a 'good' choice. He appeared to be doing well apart from the odd blip. The manager seems to know her stuff and has lots of experience and has said that they are delighted with the progress he is making.
He comes home every weekend and when we went to pick him up the deputy manager asked me to step into the office. She then presented me with a catalogue of our sons behaviours, including he went to punch a member of staff (he has never ever shown that behaviour), it takes 4 staff to shower him (he loves water)he is throwing furniture and has thrown his beloved portable tv/video. She was disparaging about another parent 'if his daughter clicks her fingers Dad jumps' She also questioned the amount of meds our son takes (a very low dose) and she feels he should be on more. She also said many of the staff are afraid of him.
I was gobsmacked, I have always found her a bit sharp and tried to avoid her on visits but I am now wondering if she is being honest and the manager is glossing over incidents.
We are off on a long awaited first proper holiday in years on Tuesday and Im now very worried about him.