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Who cares for the Carers? - Carers UK Forum

Who cares for the Carers?

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I am convinced that although it seems like we as Carers help our loved ones as much as we can, and it appears to be one-sided, there are moments where the ones we care for care for us too in their own special way, do you agree with this statement?

Maybe it is something that occured that changed you profoundly, as a Carer, and lessons you have learnt as a result of Caring?
Hi Lola,during the last frw months of my mothers life which were hard for her and bad for thoseof us trying to care for her she would just say thankyou when she was in a good period. She had so little speech left that for me it meant so much and it all so worthwhile. Sue
Mum's short-term memory isn't as good as it was but she can remember her childhood so I've started to look into our family tree via Genes Reunited so she's been helping me with that and the things I've already found has brought back some memories for her too.

On a mother/daughter level if we go out and get caught in the rain she always reminds me to get changed when I get home!
Lola, I can't understand why this discussion stopped, so I thought I'd revive it.

I know my son loves us. He has learnt to tell us, but even so I got a real surprise on February 15th last year. He came up to me, put his arm around me and said: "Dad, I'm proud to be your son."

It took him several attempts to get it right but it had me in tears from the first attempt, I can tell you.

I'm leaking now...
[quote]Lola, I can't understand why this discussion stopped, so I thought I'd revive it.

I know my son loves us. He has learnt to tell us, but even so I got a real surprise on February 15th last year. He came up to me, put his arm around me and said]

Hi Charles

Thank you for sharing such a beautiful and emotional moment - it's so apparent that your dear son adores you and that you are so proud of him and adore him so much. It is a moment that you will treasure forever...... It's moments like these that take your breath away and make our duty to Care all the more precious and worthwhile - it has made me feel emotional now! Image

A Carer here said your emotions are heightened even more as a Carer.
my mother 84 ex ww2 veteran and a war widow noticed that i was a bit down in the dumps and unknown to me she contacted M.O.D. veterans agency as she wanted 2 weeks respite care to give me a break, she received a reply saying that as she had a ful time carer she could go on "holiday" with her carers support and they would not grant her the respite care.
i opened the letter and done my nut this would have been only my second break from caring since 1997 and the first since my dad passed away 18 months ago.
so i sent off an email telling them to ************* got email back granting the respite care.

agencies dont realise that carers need care them selves we live on a knife edge and who will care for me when iam alone.
my mother wants to go into the ROYAL CHELSEA HOSPITAL as they are about to admit woman but when i told my mother that i would not be able to afford to stay in our house as i could not afford the rent she was very upset, over the last ten years my savings have just vanished but had i as a carer been in receipt of a decent "wage" things may have been better.
thanks for sharing that Charles, very 'leak' making.
You 2 must be so proud of that moment Image
My daughter Lisa who also has Autism and various other disabilities has very little speech but she broke my heart one night as she said to me in her own broken english you mean the world to me and let me tell you she means the world to me and those few words made all the bad stuff disappear in an instant then she said another one it was l dont know without you and l know she meant l dont know what l would do without you and l just told her you mean the world to me and l dont know what l would do without you it is time like that that make being a mother and care all worth while
Jeanxx
You're absolutely right, Jean.

And it means so much more because they've had to fight their disability to tell us.
yes Charles thats true Lisa has had to overcome a lot over the years she does suffer a lot of pain with various other disabilities apart from Autism but she never complains seh has her mad moments but l think that is because she cant find the words to tel me how she is feeling and l try and remind myself of that when sh is going off on one its not easy and lm not saying l am calm all the time lm not a saint but l do try and take a step back and think about what brought her tantrum on to say l wouldnt have her any other way would be a lie her personality l would keep but her disability no
hope everything is well with you all
Take care
Jeanxx