Mon Jul 23, 2007 2:44 pm
Having being a full time carer for 15 years to my hausband who has Parkinsons with dementia, I can take no more.
We have loads of support from medics, SS etc. They have given extensive rolling respite, daycare and home help but I can't take anymore. I'm a zombie and want my live back.
He is not quite ready for residential care, although SS will agree to this route.....he won't.
If I walk out he will probablly be forced into care but I run the risk of losing my portion of the house which I've worked many years for. I will have to support myself from savings until I get a job as I've no income.
We have tried for 9 months to make this work but it doesn't, there are numurous things that make it unworkable.
Many will think this heartless, but I am realativly young, sick of living on anti depressants, being suicidal.
Do I walk away and create a new life?? Or stick it to a life of misery for both of us??
We have loads of support from medics, SS etc. They have given extensive rolling respite, daycare and home help but I can't take anymore. I'm a zombie and want my live back.
He is not quite ready for residential care, although SS will agree to this route.....he won't.
If I walk out he will probablly be forced into care but I run the risk of losing my portion of the house which I've worked many years for. I will have to support myself from savings until I get a job as I've no income.
We have tried for 9 months to make this work but it doesn't, there are numurous things that make it unworkable.
Many will think this heartless, but I am realativly young, sick of living on anti depressants, being suicidal.
Do I walk away and create a new life?? Or stick it to a life of misery for both of us??