I get what you mean, but hubby wouldn't contemplate not having them stay here. Their answer, I know, will be .... 'we'll all muck in and help'. They mean with things like preparing dinner, there'll be 7 adults at least and the clearing away, that's all. They don't mean actually helping with hubby, too close and personal.
I thought my friend of 25 years understood, but she's complaining about me never going over to hers or seeing her very often etc etc. It's true that if you say 'no' too many times, no matter what the cause is, you stop getting invited and people get the hump and you get forgotten about.
Son on south coast helps with hubby when he comes up and stuff like ramps for the car and shoving hubby across sliderboards for me. And daughter does her bit too, maybe not the physical stuff, but fetching things and holding things for hubby.
The rest of the family in UK stay well clear and don't help even if WE visit THEM.
There's not too many family left really anyway, we have very few people to actually fall back on in an emergency, with actual personal stuff which is needed every day. Same as thousands of others.
I thought my friend of 25 years understood, but she's complaining about me never going over to hers or seeing her very often etc etc. It's true that if you say 'no' too many times, no matter what the cause is, you stop getting invited and people get the hump and you get forgotten about.
Son on south coast helps with hubby when he comes up and stuff like ramps for the car and shoving hubby across sliderboards for me. And daughter does her bit too, maybe not the physical stuff, but fetching things and holding things for hubby.
The rest of the family in UK stay well clear and don't help even if WE visit THEM.
There's not too many family left really anyway, we have very few people to actually fall back on in an emergency, with actual personal stuff which is needed every day. Same as thousands of others.