Hi all,
Not been on here for a while after events over last xmas. Good news is hes still ok. Its as if nothing ever happened. He came out of hospital and all his ailments disappeared (proving that most of it was in his head).
Hes still the same reagding being selfish but he'll never change. But at least he isnt phoning me/doctors/ambulance every day.
Hes still got a strange attitude towards the grandkids. To be honest, hes not bothered with them at all - they're like an inconvenience to him when I visit and bring them.
Anyway, wife and I got talking about next Xmas day. Shes not keen that he visits on Xmas day this year. To be honest, I can see her point. His behaviour was appalling last year, he thought of no-one but himself, I ended up neglecting the kids, wife and I had a row about it etc. And he really played up about how ill he was. Not even mentioning his table manners - he kept belching/breaking wind to prove how ill he was.
We've had him every year for probably the last 15 years. I drive 30-40 mins to pick him up, feed him, he stays for hours (and I have to enterain him so cant play with the kids), then I have to drive him home. My brother who lives 5 mins from him just lives with his girlfriend (no kids at home) and gets away scot free every year.
My wife wants me to invite him boxing day instead and for me to spend xmas day with my kids....
My wifes a nurse and sometimes has to work holidays. I was thinking of telling him shes working xmas day, and the kids and I are going to her brothers for dinner. To be honest, theres my brother, his sister, his cousin (all of whom had a right dig at me last time when I refused to run around!) who could step up on xmas day.
BUT, he could end up on his own xmas day when they all make excuses.
Would it be evil of me to do this? I just feel wife/family need a break from him just once on xmas day.... Next year I expect it to be back to normal....
Not been on here for a while after events over last xmas. Good news is hes still ok. Its as if nothing ever happened. He came out of hospital and all his ailments disappeared (proving that most of it was in his head).
Hes still the same reagding being selfish but he'll never change. But at least he isnt phoning me/doctors/ambulance every day.
Hes still got a strange attitude towards the grandkids. To be honest, hes not bothered with them at all - they're like an inconvenience to him when I visit and bring them.
Anyway, wife and I got talking about next Xmas day. Shes not keen that he visits on Xmas day this year. To be honest, I can see her point. His behaviour was appalling last year, he thought of no-one but himself, I ended up neglecting the kids, wife and I had a row about it etc. And he really played up about how ill he was. Not even mentioning his table manners - he kept belching/breaking wind to prove how ill he was.
We've had him every year for probably the last 15 years. I drive 30-40 mins to pick him up, feed him, he stays for hours (and I have to enterain him so cant play with the kids), then I have to drive him home. My brother who lives 5 mins from him just lives with his girlfriend (no kids at home) and gets away scot free every year.
My wife wants me to invite him boxing day instead and for me to spend xmas day with my kids....
My wifes a nurse and sometimes has to work holidays. I was thinking of telling him shes working xmas day, and the kids and I are going to her brothers for dinner. To be honest, theres my brother, his sister, his cousin (all of whom had a right dig at me last time when I refused to run around!) who could step up on xmas day.
BUT, he could end up on his own xmas day when they all make excuses.
Would it be evil of me to do this? I just feel wife/family need a break from him just once on xmas day.... Next year I expect it to be back to normal....