I have been a carer for my mum for the last 7/8 years, more or less since my dad died . She wouldnt walk and get a bit of excersise to keep her mobile prefering to sit in a chair all day and now she cant walk hardly and is house bound , mentally she is fine and medically nothing wrong with her apart from walking .
Struggled on my own initially to do it all but being on my own (no husband, grown up kids , brother miles away ) I am self employed , running my and my mums home and struggling to make ends meet financially its been very hard .Private carers help now with some of the daily bathing / feeding / putting to bed duties . I am trying to arrange a holiday next year to see my daughter in Australia (shes been there 10 years , never been), only had one week holiday in the last 5 years .I know my mother will flip if I mention it , the thing is who would do her grocery shopping every week while I am away ( she cant get up to answer the door if delivered) who will drop everything and go round to her house and clean her up when she has an accident if I am not around ( I work from home being self employed) ? The carers only go set times , she has a panic alarm necklace around her neck for emergencies in case she falls etc . When she does push it she always asks them to ring me .I am at her beck and call all the time , too hot , too cold , dropped the remote on the floor , in a mess , she makes all sorts of stuff up to get me round there and then there isnt really anything wrong .How do I find out about someone trustworthy who would perhaps stay or someone to do her shopping or other stuff while I am away ?
Struggled on my own initially to do it all but being on my own (no husband, grown up kids , brother miles away ) I am self employed , running my and my mums home and struggling to make ends meet financially its been very hard .Private carers help now with some of the daily bathing / feeding / putting to bed duties . I am trying to arrange a holiday next year to see my daughter in Australia (shes been there 10 years , never been), only had one week holiday in the last 5 years .I know my mother will flip if I mention it , the thing is who would do her grocery shopping every week while I am away ( she cant get up to answer the door if delivered) who will drop everything and go round to her house and clean her up when she has an accident if I am not around ( I work from home being self employed) ? The carers only go set times , she has a panic alarm necklace around her neck for emergencies in case she falls etc . When she does push it she always asks them to ring me .I am at her beck and call all the time , too hot , too cold , dropped the remote on the floor , in a mess , she makes all sorts of stuff up to get me round there and then there isnt really anything wrong .How do I find out about someone trustworthy who would perhaps stay or someone to do her shopping or other stuff while I am away ?