Jenny has been given loads of good advice already.
Perhaps it's time for some practical advice too. Jenny could investigate the possibility of contacting Social Services in the area that MIL lives, assuming her MIL agrees to this course of action.
From what we have been told MIl needs assistance with shopping(?online) and perhaps some sort of social interaction. If her needs are assessed she may meet the criteria for assistance. Befriending schemes from charities are a another avenue which can be explored. If Social Services can't assist, then approach the private sector for someone to shop, clean, maybe prepare food.
Jenny could then, to quote Scallys phrase "become a care organiser" as opposed to facing the possibility of a permanent house guest which idea is traumatising jenny apparently..
A best of both worlds situation.
Didn't one of our mods manage to take on caring from Spain to the UK, and it was successful? Distance caring works for many. Many families, including my own, are scattered geographically. (An aside ...check out CUK JOINTLY initiative)
The mother in law has a son, Jenny's brother In law, yes? The family dance is always delicate. But I do hope that the son is being brought to the decision making process.
I am still concerned for her MIL and for jenny herself.
Perhaps it's time for some practical advice too. Jenny could investigate the possibility of contacting Social Services in the area that MIL lives, assuming her MIL agrees to this course of action.
From what we have been told MIl needs assistance with shopping(?online) and perhaps some sort of social interaction. If her needs are assessed she may meet the criteria for assistance. Befriending schemes from charities are a another avenue which can be explored. If Social Services can't assist, then approach the private sector for someone to shop, clean, maybe prepare food.
Jenny could then, to quote Scallys phrase "become a care organiser" as opposed to facing the possibility of a permanent house guest which idea is traumatising jenny apparently..
A best of both worlds situation.
Didn't one of our mods manage to take on caring from Spain to the UK, and it was successful? Distance caring works for many. Many families, including my own, are scattered geographically. (An aside ...check out CUK JOINTLY initiative)
The mother in law has a son, Jenny's brother In law, yes? The family dance is always delicate. But I do hope that the son is being brought to the decision making process.
I am still concerned for her MIL and for jenny herself.