Re: STOMA CARE
Posted: Wed Jul 05, 2017 4:21 pm
Thank you again, yes, I am bereaved, and I am mourning not only the loss of my man, but the loss of the business I spent 11 years creating, I am furious that I am a carer by default because I live with him. There is no one to help me, his children are 200 miles away. We are not married, we have only known each other 7 years and lived together for 5, people keep telling me to walk out and get on with my own life....sunnydisposition wrote:Have you had or considered any counselling. You g.p. could refer you. You are sounding bereaved. Although the person is still here you are experiencing loss. Are there any carer groups in your local area. Other carers in similar situation usually have better insight to your situation. This forum is a good starting point.
https://whatsyourgrief.com/ambiguous-gr ... ill-alive/
Have a read of the link -don't be put off by the description.
You now need to create a new life that runs parallel to the old. Think of it as a new Job. You have you job description what do you need to adapt/learn. Develop a new box of tools.
A new support/friends net work.
Make sure you have me time.
Find new leisure/hobbies.
Have you applied for a carers assessment.
I have a plan, and that is to keep working from home, as a distraction, and so that when the worse happens, I still have something to fall back on. I am writing a fiction book, when I have a mo, and last week I had counselling for the first time - it helped.
If I ever finish the book, and publish it on amazon you can look on your kindles and tell me what you think
Bless you all