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jenny lucas Online
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Sun May 06, 2018 11:02 am
I think it's extremely common for any of us who don't 'go out' to work to be regarded as 'handy' for others!!!
That friend of mine I mentioned, is a single mum, and because of that she gave up work and became a Stay At Home Mum (she reckoned her children had been disrupted quite enough by their dad leaving, let alone if they became latch-key kids). But the 'friend' (also divorced) had kept working. The 'friends' view was brutal - she regarded my friend as having 'nothing to do' and therefore she could obviously 'be available' to go and pick up HER son from school when she wanted her to.
What my friend always said to me was: 'Look, I didn't give up my salary and take a cut in my living standards so that I could become a free taxi service to a woman who wasn't prepared to do the same, but wanted to go on with her well-paid job and to hell with her kids and what they needed!'
So, I'm wondering whether, if you are a 'live in carer', and don't 'go out' to work, your so-called friends assume that you 'do nothing' all day, and are therefore 'available' for being 'useful' to them!!!
It sounds like the dog-owners have merrily told themselves that THEY are doing YOU a favour by 'letting' you have their dog while they go away on holiday!
As I say, those who use other people (your so-called friends) never actually like to think of themselves as 'users' so will come up with all sorts of convenient 'justifications' for exploiting you.
I'm glad, in this instance, you stood up to them. And, of course, added to their 'cheek' is the brute fact that IF their dog were better behaved (and we KNOW that bad dog behaviour is not the fault of the poor dogs, but the useless owners!), then they would have more people to help them.
Apart from (I damn well hope!) saying 'thank you' to you for what you do for them, what else do they do by way of thankyou? Bear in mind that a kennel would charge a significant amount of money - probably adding another hundred pounds at the very least to the cost of their holiday.