My family have experienced more negativity with my husband's disabilities than my son's. So many people seem very positive about Downs Syndrome. But try getting a man with a white stick safely down a street,(when he doesn't have a guide dog with him). People get angry if he bumps into them, or if his stick touches their shopping bags, they park their cars on the pavement and are abusive if he gets near them. But give the same man a guide dog and walk down the same street, and everyone makes way for them, and allows them lots of room. Of course they stare,but to be honest, most people are curious as to how the dog knows what to do. I saw two boys about 12 years old talking to my husband one day. I knew that they were from the worst part of town for troublemaking, and the pair of them had a cigarette each hanging out of their mouths, but when I listened, they asked really sensible questions, including asking if they should move out of the way if they saw someone approaching them on the pavement with a guide dog.
Boggle, it sounds as though your daughter has the right Mum for her, one that will not put up with any abuse,including staring. Good for you!