For your sake that's what I want to happen as well. It appears from your posts that you have endured years and years of cruelty and abuse from you mum, and so have the rest of your family. You are too kind for your own good, to think that you are cruel, so don't be daft. You are not cruel, you have been a loving and caring son even after everything that has happened, when every other relative abandoned her. Take care.