So wotcha think about the New Members

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why do new members post something,you take the time to reply and 2 days later they still haven't responded to peoples replies,makes you wonder why you bothered!
Malc, sometimes it's the case that people don't have time to log on each day to reply. I myself haven't been around on the boards much this week and I imagine next week will be the same, have been bogged down with appointments, my son being ill and things going on at school. Even though I may not be posting as much as usual I am still reading through all the posts.
As a new member who has only posted on the new section... found and joined this forum (my first one) because I needed information, so I read through old posts which was helpful. I recieved some great advice following my initial post although I am not notified when I recieve replies (not sure if thats just me or thats how it normally works) Felt quite rude when I checked some time later and realised I had 2 repiles I had not seen Image Took me a while to scroll down far enough to discover there are specialist sections for Dementia etc. Think I would post again when I need advice/information that is general to caring. This site seems more social than others, have just started reading through carer to carer and roll call but not quite made the leap to posting, maybe because I joined as a carer with my practical head on, then said hello as carer me on new members but forgot about non carer me saying hello socially Image
I'm probably one of the new members who join then don't post any more. I've tried to a couple of times, but I hesitate for a few reasons - one is time - I have so little time left to myself I often can't fit in all the reading on the forum you have to do, let alone writing a post. by the time my day is over - 10.00 ish after starting it all at 6.30 am, I'm ready for my book, milk (and whisky!) and sleep - hoping to get an unbroken night.
Also I do get a lot of support from just reading peoples posts every so often, but if I reply or start a conversation with anyone I can't make the commitment needed to keep it up - I can't be relied on to be there. you all seem so nice - so rather than give offence by not replying for days possibly I just keep quiet.
also you all seem to know each other so well it seems hard to suddenly say 'hey here I am - listen to me' - though I know from the odd time I have posted you are very warm and welcoming.
I try to keep up with my family and friens on FB - that's ok but also takes up time(computers eat time Image ) I suppose the whole thing is a mixture of tiredness and shyness, but I'm really glad to be a member and read when I can and it helps, a lot, to know I'm not on my own. I do get desperate and lonely. I will try to post more - even if it's short and rubbish. good luck and thanks everyone and keep it up Image
Hi Robbie,
Don't be shy, I've never met anyone in "real life" from the forum, but I've shared lots. As I used to write a magazine, I type pretty quickly. I work from home, I dip into the forum now and then during the day as something to give me a different thing to think about when I'm doing some really boring stuff, usually whilst I'm waiting for my coffee to cool down. All I seem to be doing this year is having a mega sort out of the house, for various reasons, and let's face it, we can't do anything outside with the weather like it is!
Hi, thanks bowlingbun
sounds about right - dip in now and then between jobs. The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak - and tired.
Bed now - sound of rain outside
good night -
Hiya all

I am new on here and did one post but not sure what to do next??

I am having a bad time a very hectic week and very stressful in my caring role, I don't know what the future holds for me, if I will manage to work full time and to have time with my partner.
Hello Selina, welcome to the forum.

If you want to tell us a bit about yourself you can go to the "New Members" section and do a new post, failing that you can post anywhere you like!

Carers to Carer is just that, where we tend to talk about all sorts, General Discussion is where we tend to talk about the issues that affect us as carers.

Sorry to hear you are having a rough week, the problems with working and caring are a subject that crops up frequently. What i may do if you don't mind is to ask one of the mods to move your post to the New Members section..don't want you to get overlooked!

PS. Hi Mby and Robbie, thanks for telling us a bit more about your situations. You post when you feel up to it Image
Nice to see new members posting - hope you don't feel "got at" to post: the important thing is to post when you feel like it or have the time.

Some of us post a little more than we should, perhaps. Be particularly careful around those who've posted more than 8000... Image
I'm sorta new....joined a while back, but returning, as i'm now at a bit of a breaking point. just put a new post on. So, I'm glad you are all here.
Robbie,

I've just read your post and wanted to say a big thank you for saying a great deal of how my life is.....sometimes I can't even think straight enough to put my thoughts/feelings into words, which is so frustrating....you did so really well, and it was lovely to read what you said.

best wishes
Alex (weeamazon)
I'm probably one of the new members who join then don't post any more. I've tried to a couple of times, but I hesitate for a few reasons - one is time - I have so little time left to myself I often can't fit in all the reading on the forum you have to do, let alone writing a post. by the time my day is over - 10.00 ish after starting it all at 6.30 am, I'm ready for my book, milk (and whisky!) and sleep - hoping to get an unbroken night.
Also I do get a lot of support from just reading peoples posts every so often, but if I reply or start a conversation with anyone I can't make the commitment needed to keep it up - I can't be relied on to be there. you all seem so nice - so rather than give offence by not replying for days possibly I just keep quiet.
also you all seem to know each other so well it seems hard to suddenly say 'hey here I am - listen to me' - though I know from the odd time I have posted you are very warm and welcoming.
I try to keep up with my family and friens on FB - that's ok but also takes up time(computers eat time Image ) I suppose the whole thing is a mixture of tiredness and shyness, but I'm really glad to be a member and read when I can and it helps, a lot, to know I'm not on my own. I do get desperate and lonely. I will try to post more - even if it's short and rubbish. good luck and thanks everyone and keep it up Image
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