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Re: So wotcha think about the New Members

Posted: Mon Jul 09, 2012 6:31 am
by bowlingbun
I wonder if new members always find what they are looking for, without ever making any posting? Or are they looking once or twice, not find what they want, and go away forever? Do they scroll down the board index? Looking at the dates of last postings they are very little used - is that because they are not wanted, or because no one realises they are there? Would new members needing or looking for help on autism, for example, realise there are specific sections? Would new members be more likely to post in a section specifically for their carees illness/disablility? Would a series of tabs at the top of the front page be easier to use than a written index? Just a few thoughts to help the discussion about new members along.

Re: So wotcha think about the New Members

Posted: Mon Jul 09, 2012 1:10 pm
by paulingreece
As with the saying, it takes all sorts to make a world, the same applies to a forum. I post lots, then nothing for ages, it depends on a) how stressed i am, b) how busy i am, c) having something worthwhile to post, i work on the pretext of, in doubt say nowt.
Some people will browse and get inspiration from others posts, the forum has done its job.
Some people will post, get the answers or support they need, then lurk, again the forum has done it's job.
Some people will only lurk, but get support from knowing they are not alone. again the forum has done its job.

The forum should be what each individual wants it to be, a meeting place, a support place, a guide, on the subject of younger carers, yes, a forum place for them would be good, you need the younger carers to carry on the forum as they become older carers and transfer over to where we are now. more advertising of the forum would be good, as alot of people only find it by accident. Flyers in Dr's surgerys and hospital wards.

We all get post ar##ache, where someone will post something that gets up our noses, in the main we ignore it, and the mods are excellant at pouring cold water on heated issues, the point is the forum is what you want it to be, it can and has helped hundreds of people, just being the way it is, don't over anylise it, accept that we are all differant, and bring change only if needed, let people know the support is here, wether they post or not doesn't matter, the fact they had support means the forum is doing it's job. Let newbies find their feet in their own time, we should not expect them to post, just because we do. gentle engouragement yes, but don't push them, as more will leave than join.

Re: So wotcha think about the New Members

Posted: Mon Jul 09, 2012 1:53 pm
by Legsmaniac
Hear hear. Excellent post. Image

Re: So wotcha think about the New Members

Posted: Mon Jul 09, 2012 3:43 pm
by rosemary
well said Paul

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Re: So wotcha think about the New Members

Posted: Mon Jul 09, 2012 11:48 pm
by donn
New member crossing over

Just need to get into the groove

Re: So wotcha think about the New Members

Posted: Tue Jul 10, 2012 8:51 pm
by HollyBozak

Holly, so yes facilities (is that the right word) for younger carers seems to be so thinly spread, both on forums and in Real World then? You obviously have closest understanding of needs, would you like to start a new topic to bounce constructive ideas around in? Just an idea thats all, like Ladybird i dont want this to get overlooked, ok? A specific topic might also touch on activity ideas at/by Live carers centres for other sections, i.e. men and working women/carers too.
Personally, i have very little experience of carers meetings, but have recently attended some things and the benefit for me has been meeting folk who i have been able to meet again outside the group. Cream tea by the way wouldnt have excited me either! Image
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Yes. I was going to email my local carers group to see if they thought about doing anything for younger people, guess it wouldn't harm to see what they say. I'll start one off Image
That's probably the kind of thing I need to happen as I work full time (keeps me sane Image ) so only have the evenings and weekends free which then it would be good to have people that I can meet at whatever time. I showed the leaflet to my mum, she said she wouldn't fancy it either Image

Re: So wotcha think about the New Members

Posted: Wed Jul 11, 2012 8:49 pm
by malc
why do new members post something,you take the time to reply and 2 days later they still haven't responded to peoples replies,makes you wonder why you bothered!

Re: So wotcha think about the New Members

Posted: Wed Jul 11, 2012 9:10 pm
by ladybird
why do new members post something,you take the time to reply and 2 days later they still haven't responded to peoples replies,makes you wonder why you bothered!
Well, possibly they are just letting off steam Malc, needing to get it out of their system and then go back to deal with life. We have discussed all the reasons why some don't post again, the most obvious thing is that they are too busy with their real world responsibilities to come back immediately.

We all have days where we are snowed under and we all have days where we feel ignored by those that we try to help. Try not to take it personally.

Re: So wotcha think about the New Members

Posted: Wed Jul 11, 2012 9:17 pm
by malc
i know i shouldn't take it personally but you try to do the right thing and encourage people and they seem to dissapear of the face of the earth.

Re: So wotcha think about the New Members

Posted: Wed Jul 11, 2012 9:30 pm
by ladybird
i know i shouldn't take it personally but you try to do the right thing and encourage people and they seem to dissapear of the face of the earth.
You did do the right thing Malc. Give the person some time...it might just all be a bit too much at the moment. Give you a laugh. Image

When my daughter was diagnosed (nearly 5 years old) I was given the number of a support association and was left to get on with it.
I rang them and spoke to one of the "bosses" she had a son with the same condition. She then grilled me at length about what I fed my daughter on, what she ate when at nursery and when i told her juice and one biscuit (they have to follow a restricted diet) she told me "no, that's no good, she must have 1 plain ryvita and water!".

I came off the phone shell shocked and burst into tears. I didn't contact them again for more than 9 years!

You're not a "ryvita lady" type Malc so just concentrate on the fact that you offered some support. Image