Well done, Sue. The most difficult part is done and the decision made. I too had to do the same thing and refuse to care any more until Social Services took me seriously. This was after three hospital trips in one week (and I worked full-time!).
Firstly, you are doing what mum needs, not necessarily what she wants. Her needs are now more important, as are yours. You will continue to care, with the help of full-time residential care. You are (I assume) not going to walk away and never visit her again.
If she had come home, you would have been postponing the decision. My mum also lost the ability to walk. I do feel the dementia made things a lot worse, almost as if the brain could no longer tell the legs what to do. Your mum inevitably will get worse, not better; the caring at home would have become all the more difficult / impossible, ie you are doing the right thing for both of you.
Mum's dementia, I suspect, is now what is driving her and sadly making her all the more stubborn. I saw it with my own mum.
Hang on in there. No, you probably don't feel like celebrating but you will gradually be able to reclaim a little of your health and happiness.
Thinking of you, Anne x
Firstly, you are doing what mum needs, not necessarily what she wants. Her needs are now more important, as are yours. You will continue to care, with the help of full-time residential care. You are (I assume) not going to walk away and never visit her again.
If she had come home, you would have been postponing the decision. My mum also lost the ability to walk. I do feel the dementia made things a lot worse, almost as if the brain could no longer tell the legs what to do. Your mum inevitably will get worse, not better; the caring at home would have become all the more difficult / impossible, ie you are doing the right thing for both of you.
Mum's dementia, I suspect, is now what is driving her and sadly making her all the more stubborn. I saw it with my own mum.
Hang on in there. No, you probably don't feel like celebrating but you will gradually be able to reclaim a little of your health and happiness.
Thinking of you, Anne x