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Sun Sep 13, 2009 10:53 pm
A neighbour called round this evening in my absence and spoke to my caree. I had gone to water the plants on my dad's grave and in the twenty minutes I was away, she called. She apparently has an issue with a trellis I put up months ago which she believes is on her land. My caree was left confused and worried, not really sure what it was about. She should have gone away and come back when I was in, and not spoken about it to my caree - my caree is obviously unwell.
The willow trellis is millimetres thick so I cannot see how she can define a bondary down to millimetres.
I put up the trellis to hide the dilapidated fence that separates her garden from ours. It is several centimetres away from her fence. Her fence is a real eyesore and it was my caree's view from the window. To give my caree a more pleasant view and hide said ugly fence, I put up the trellis and grew pretty small-leafed, variegated leaf ivies which have grown up the trellis over the past two years. It looks so nice. I have worked hard to make the garden pretty and flower-filled for her for when she is too ill to go out but can see it through the window.
Neighbour cannot see the trellis unless she cranes her head around her own fence at the end of it. It is not visible from her garden because her fence hides it. She said the ivy might damage her fence. I have written to her this evening (after trying to reason with her in person) to say that if the ivy comes onto her land, she should cut it back where it encroaches on her land (as I do when her plants grow into our garden).
When I spoke to her in person, she said if I don't remove it sher will take down her own fence and then forcibly remove the trellis. To what end? What is the point? It's petty and a drama out of nothing, but I think she is a lonely woman who has nothing better to occupy herself with. The older people arounbd here are generally very pleasant to us as they see me with my caree out together and perhaps having seen more of life, identify with our situation better than younger people around here. This older woman is the exception.
If she forcibly removes the trellis and inevitably damages the plant, surely that is criminal damage.
She made unpleasant remarks about me, my caree and my late father when I went round. They are rubbish and untrue remarks but I am very upset. My dad was well-respected in the community and he is not here to defend himself. My caree is obviously frail.
It helps to write it down. I loved the thread about carers ding courses. I would like to study law and then I could protect me and my caree from this kind of situation.
The willow trellis is millimetres thick so I cannot see how she can define a bondary down to millimetres.
I put up the trellis to hide the dilapidated fence that separates her garden from ours. It is several centimetres away from her fence. Her fence is a real eyesore and it was my caree's view from the window. To give my caree a more pleasant view and hide said ugly fence, I put up the trellis and grew pretty small-leafed, variegated leaf ivies which have grown up the trellis over the past two years. It looks so nice. I have worked hard to make the garden pretty and flower-filled for her for when she is too ill to go out but can see it through the window.
Neighbour cannot see the trellis unless she cranes her head around her own fence at the end of it. It is not visible from her garden because her fence hides it. She said the ivy might damage her fence. I have written to her this evening (after trying to reason with her in person) to say that if the ivy comes onto her land, she should cut it back where it encroaches on her land (as I do when her plants grow into our garden).
When I spoke to her in person, she said if I don't remove it sher will take down her own fence and then forcibly remove the trellis. To what end? What is the point? It's petty and a drama out of nothing, but I think she is a lonely woman who has nothing better to occupy herself with. The older people arounbd here are generally very pleasant to us as they see me with my caree out together and perhaps having seen more of life, identify with our situation better than younger people around here. This older woman is the exception.
If she forcibly removes the trellis and inevitably damages the plant, surely that is criminal damage.
She made unpleasant remarks about me, my caree and my late father when I went round. They are rubbish and untrue remarks but I am very upset. My dad was well-respected in the community and he is not here to defend himself. My caree is obviously frail.
It helps to write it down. I loved the thread about carers ding courses. I would like to study law and then I could protect me and my caree from this kind of situation.
