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NanaNana Online
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- Location: Shropshire
Sat May 02, 2009 10:00 am
Hubby always tells people that 'we can manage, can't we?' And 'no, I think we're alright, aren't we?' (when offered help). I'm desperate to say 'actually, no, I can't manage', but then he says that because he has PAs, WHAT THE HELL AM I MOANING ABOUT????? The PAs don't mow the lawn, service the lawnmower, put petrol/water/oil in the car, service the car, wash the car, climb ladders to mend things, replace light bulbs, do the shopping, collect hubby's dustbin bagfuls of supplies from the pharmacy (boxes of sheaths and legbags don't fit inside carrier bags, when we have three or four boxes at a time), maintain the wheelchair (tightening screws and bolts and cleaning it and watching out for its state of safety), maintain the central heating oil system, paperwork, filing, choosing meals, heavy 'man type jobs'. They don't have to think about anything not related to hubby. And worse of all, THEY DON'T HAVE ANYTHING TO WORRY ABOUT. . . . because at the end of their 2 weeks, they just walk away and have 2 weeks all to themselves. And hubby can't see that my health problems could possibly have anything to do with looking after him, because apparently I don't look after him. Oh yeah? It's awful to say it, but I just wish I had a man about the place, who doesn't get angry when I'm stressed and worried all the time. But it's okay, EVERYTHING'S FINE, thank you.