just to keep you up to date.
i went to the hospital today to see mum and they told me that an assessment had been done and mum did not reach the criteria for a care support package.
i said i could not understand that. the nurse on duty put me in touch with s.w. who had done the assessment and she came down to the ward to see me. it turned out that she believed everything my mum had told her about how she will look after herself (with one hand) and that her daughter would help her. i had to be very assertive and explain how difficult it would be for mum etc.etc. and she agreed, with apologies, to make a referral for a care package to be set up. i said i would not be taking mum home until the care package was in place.
so i followed all your advice, and hope that it works out well. fingers crossed.
pam x