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Carers UK Forum • help! feeling overwhelmed
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help! feeling overwhelmed

Posted: Wed Oct 31, 2012 10:06 pm
by phoebe
Sometimes I just feel so tired, so pulled in all directions, with so much to do and not knowing where to start! Image I try to be sensible and prioritise, but sometimes feel that if I don't get a minute to myself soon, I'm going to scream. I love my family dearly but just now and again just want to say "go away and don't talk to me " Am I doing it all wrong, or being mean????? Image

Re: help! feeling overwhelmed

Posted: Wed Oct 31, 2012 10:18 pm
by Robinredbreast
Aaawww Phoebe bless you. Its only human nature to feel like that, I know I have and I'm sure many others have felt that way too and it's not mean or wrong,honestly.
Don't beat yourself about it, its very frustrating at times and you just wanna shout 'stop the world, I wanna get off'.
Do you have any type of support from a partner, loved one or friends as this can be a big help. Make sure you enjoy something you really like doing and have some 'me time' Image

Take care and make sure you look after yourself, with my very good wishes RRB X

Re: help! feeling overwhelmed

Posted: Wed Oct 31, 2012 10:59 pm
by phoebe
Thank you, RRB, feel better for "having a rant" Image I think it's just been a particulary busy week, Hubby has been especially demanding of my attention tonight, took me an hour just to finish reading a newspaper article! Oh well, thats how it is. Got a quiet weekend coming up so will try to catch up with myself then. Image

Re: help! feeling overwhelmed

Posted: Wed Oct 31, 2012 11:03 pm
by Robinredbreast
Thank you, RRB, feel better for "having a rant" Image I think it's just been a particulary busy week, Hubby has been especially demanding of my attention tonight, took me an hour just to finish reading a newspaper article! Oh well, thats how it is. Got a quiet weekend coming up so will try to catch up with myself then. Image
Glad you are feeling better and enjoy a nice relaxing weekend. RRB Image

Re: help! feeling overwhelmed

Posted: Thu Nov 01, 2012 12:51 am
by Myrtle
You're not doing it wrong and you're not being mean, just human!

Does you good to get it off your chest Image

Re: help! feeling overwhelmed

Posted: Thu Nov 01, 2012 7:35 am
by Lazydaisy
Welcome to the forum Phoebe.
I know that feeling very well. I used to go for a long solitary walk, I was very fortunate to be able to get out and about now and again by myself.I don't go out and about as much now,but might go somewhere for a coffee and read of my kindle.

Re: help! feeling overwhelmed

Posted: Thu Nov 01, 2012 8:17 am
by bowlingbun
Is hubby going to come to any harm if you leave him in the lounge whilst you go and read the paper in the bedroom or dining room? Do you have a spare room which you could make into a "den" just for you? For many years, I used our smallest bedroom as a den/study for me. Only my female things allowed, sewing machine, books, chests with fabric, patterns etc. If my OH was watching a TV programme I wasn't interested in, I'd go upstairs to "play with my patterns". In the good old days before we had kids, I would make a dress on Saturday and blouse on Sunday, so my needlework has always been a "permitted activity". I would shut the door and the family knew that I would NOT appreciate being disturbed. My OH and sons shared a "shed" in the garden where similar rules applied.

Re: help! feeling overwhelmed

Posted: Thu Nov 01, 2012 8:13 pm
by phoebe
Thank you everyone, all your support and advice much appreciated. Usually he's quite happy watching sport while I sit and read. We do have another room Just off our front room, where I go to play the piano which relaxes me. Fortunately he loves classical music too so he his quite happy with that, but now and again, gets in his "demanding" mood where he doesn't like me to leave his side. Image Most of the time I can deal with it, except when I am tired and fed up myself!!! I like the coffee shop and kindle idea. If my bus to work in the morning is early, I take my book into the cafe and have a cup of tea and half hour to myself. Lovely! Image
Phoebe.

Re: help! feeling overwhelmed

Posted: Thu Nov 01, 2012 8:14 pm
by phoebe
Thank you everyone, all your support and advice much appreciated. Usually he's quite happy watching sport while I sit and read. We do have another room Just off our front room, where I go to play the piano which relaxes me. Fortunately he loves classical music too so he his quite happy with that, but now and again, gets in his "demanding" mood where he doesn't like me to leave his side. Image Most of the time I can deal with it, except when I am tired and fed up myself!!! I like the coffee shop and kindle idea. If my bus to work in the morning is early, I take my book into the cafe and have a cup of tea and half hour to myself. Lovely! Image
Phoebe.

Re: help! feeling overwhelmed

Posted: Thu Nov 01, 2012 8:16 pm
by phoebe
oops somehow managed to post that twice, not sure how!! Image