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Carers UK Forum • good help is hard to find.
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good help is hard to find.

Posted: Sun May 02, 2010 11:50 pm
by Maxi
A Tale of TWO Hats..

Wearing my carers hat,Its the very devil of a job finding AFFORDABLE tradesmen who wont rip-you-off.(So,I find,at any rate)

Wearing my other job hat,Ive found,among some young folk,a,quite disturbing lack of any sence of eagerness to work.STATE HANDOUTS,COUPLED WITH PARENTS WHO INDULGED THEM,HAVE RESULTED IN SOME PRETTY IDLE KIDS.

The Dependancy culture has generated a workshy set.

We all know,mention the word work or the work-ethic,and your shunned as a nut.very depressing. Image

Maxi My disabled son is

Posted: Sun May 02, 2010 11:54 pm
by Eun

My disabled son is 24 years old and a university graduate and is desperate to work but no one will employ him. Image



Posted: Mon May 03, 2010 2:31 am
by Maxi
Eun,the irony,ive often found,carers,and people like your son,are very willing to work.often those fittest for work are the ones who seek to avoid it,irony is the word. Image

My daughter is 20,and has

Posted: Mon May 03, 2010 9:13 am
by Lazydaisy
My daughter is 20,and has been working since she finished college. She worked in a childrens nursery for a year,her chosen choice of career, then when it closed down and they were all made redundant, she found work in a retirement home within three weeks.
My late son went to college, worked during the summers at a leisure park(as did my daughter), but he was unable to get permanent work anywhere.He was a volunteer for MIND, and helped support brothers and sisters of children with special needs.
My nephew is still in college, and hoping to go to university, has been trying to get a summer job, or a permanent part time one, where he could do university and earn money to live, but unable to.
Many of my late son's friends keep in touch through Facebook, and there are not many who are unemployed.
I see lots of older people who are unwilling to work, which is setting a bad example,(I know a local person, an in-law, who says she can't work due to being partially deaf and is on severe disablement allowance because of it,but she is a fulltime voluntary driver for Social Services as it keeps her car on the road with her expenses paid;she is in her 40's,not married, no children).
There are good and bad in all age groups. I have to say I feel very sorry for young people who are unable to get work. I don't see many who are unwilling to work.

My special needs daughter is

Posted: Mon May 03, 2010 11:41 am
by Penny
My special needs daughter is in her 20's and is desperate for a job. That and a boyfriend is all she wants in life!! Image

We get passed from pillar to post all the time. We're off for an appointment tomorrow to see about a basic skills course to help her. (Yes, another one! Image ) She was at the Job Centre last week, we've also seen 2 training providers and neither of those have helped at all.

She has been doing 3 voluntary jobs (which involves 3 mornings a week) for a couple of years now and they're all happy with her.

I wish some of the people who sit and home & don't even consider work could see how hard she tries. It's not fair. Image

case proven,i think?.

Posted: Mon May 03, 2010 5:56 pm
by Maxi
Im allways amazed by the courage of those in our carers family.Yes,so-many seek and want work. Image

I have 3 children, Sarah

Posted: Mon May 03, 2010 6:14 pm
by Nilla
I have 3 children, Sarah of course who is DS and then I have Carrie who is almost 30, shes worked since she left college and when Becki was a year old she went back to work 2.5 days a week, Simon I am ashamed to say doesnt want to work, he thinks that any job under 30k isnt worth getting out of bed for! he has had a couple of jobs but lasted a week in them due to his 'I know it all attitude'
When he was with his partner she claimed Income Support for both of them as she was a carer for my grandson aged 3 who has Cystuic Fibrosis, because Sy wasnt on JSA they didnt chase him to get a job, and they did very well off benefits even going abroad on holiday, now they have split he is having to claim JSA and of course with his addiction cant afford to live on it so we have been buying him food but we have all decided now that we have had enough, Carrie has a few money problems now due to her MIL being ill and having to move into the bungalow her and her partner did up to sell.

I worked all my life till Mum had her stroke and I had to pack in, so I am ashamed of Sy

Just to say....

Posted: Mon May 03, 2010 6:29 pm
by Maxi
Carers WORK every day,and night.But carers often have long working lives behind them.Some.have,due to the intense nature of the care they give,been denied the option of being able to work,yet so-many long to do so.

What irony.Those who cannot want to work.Some,who could WONT. Image

Oh yep, we WORK all

Posted: Wed May 05, 2010 9:40 am
by NanaNana
Oh yep, we WORK all right. On call all the time no matter how exhausted we are, still have to do things and think of everything.
The people who get my goat are the ones who do the minimal, put in the least bit of effort or thought and then moan and say "it's all too much, I can't do it" and huff and puff at the slightest physical work.

in the heat of the night.

Posted: Wed May 05, 2010 11:00 pm
by Maxi
david cameron hit-on night workers seeking votes.had he visited the odd carer,day or night,to hear,to see,to find out how it is,he might find it educational.carers work 24/7. Image