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Carers UK Forum • Giving up work ... giving up last link to 'normality'?! - Page 2
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Re: Giving up work ... giving up last link to 'normality'?!

Posted: Mon Mar 06, 2017 9:53 pm
by MrsAverage
I thought that would be the answer Maz :) I only raised it so you could see another reason why you are feeling low. Seems perfectly natural to me, in the circumstances.
Clapped Out Carer Syndrome looming. Even superheroes get it :)

Re: Giving up work ... giving up last link to 'normality'?!

Posted: Tue Mar 07, 2017 8:30 am
by Maz1963
MrsAverage wrote:I thought that would be the answer Maz :) I only raised it so you could see another reason why you are feeling low. Seems perfectly natural to me, in the circumstances.
Clapped Out Carer Syndrome looming. Even superheroes get it :)
You're right Mrs A. What I probably need to do is try another week's respite and just accept that mum will be difficult (and that hopefully they are used this, in the right place!). I also need to try that day care again, maybe sooner rather than later. I'll think on it. Maybe the counselling will help, if I can find some.

Re: Giving up work ... giving up last link to 'normality'?!

Posted: Tue Mar 07, 2017 9:08 am
by bowlingbun
My GP recommended the private carer I use. Maybe ask the surgery, or your local Alzheimer's Society, if they know of any private carers.
Maz, could you plan a "holiday at home"? It seems what you need most of all is someone else to share the burden of caring for mum, who will sadly just get worse. Would having a carer disguised as a domestic to help you, not mum, be a good way to start introducing additional help?
After all, you are not getting any younger either, and after a day at work should not be left doing all the domestic chores, especially when at least half of it will be mum related.
If you could have time off for day trips out that would at least give you something new and interesting to think and talk about. Battling with my son's LA over his care is totally dominating my life right now, and it's the lack of ordinary social interaction I'm missing most. Still, it's only about 10 weeks until I "escape" to Menorca for a week, and then 2 weeks in Majorca in September. If there's something good to look forward to, it makes the humdrum easier to cope with.