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Eviction from hospital

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Hello again, everybody.

Following on from my post "Husband can't come home from hospital", that is still the case and he's been in and out of hospital (and rehab and, for a short time, a temporary placement). He was readmitted to hospital around 4 or 5 weeks ago with another infection and since then he's been through the mill with a variety of problems. However, he's now been pronounced medically fit for discharge, but is refusing to go anywhere else. In fact, it seems he's refusing to allow them to refer him to Social Services at all - which is strange, because he keeps complaining that SS haven't been to see him yet. Anyway, because of this, the hospital have said that they will have to start the eviction process in order to free up his bed. Does anyone have any experience of this process and any suggestions as to what I can do, please?

http://www.schwehroncare.co.uk/delayed- ... pital-bed/

Maybe start by contacting Belinda Schwehr, or her charity Cascaidr. I know they sorted out someone I knew with a problem.
Thanks, BB, I'll give that a try. I did have a look at her website yesterday, but wasn't sure whether my husband's situation "qualified"!
We had this guy locally a few years ago who refused to leave hospital

https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/2695335/n ... er-strike/
Hi Penny,

Yes, I read about this case and we're in the same region as the James Paget, although not, I think, the same CCG. Still, we'd come under the same Social Services.

We've heard nothing about eviction since that first meeting with the Discharge Matron. I spoke to the Ward Sister on Friday and she said we're all in a difficult situation at the moment and they're trying to find a way forward. She told me not to worry, as they wouldn't just dump him on the doorstep. I asked about a mental capacity assessment, but she said he does have mental capacity at the moment, although he's clearly not accepting and understanding his own situation and care needs.

I've been to see him today, but I'm afraid I walked out after about 15 minutes. He said we it was time we had a serious talk, then proceeded to tell me that he was coming home, probably one day this week. I asked him if they'd come up with a solution to getting him into the house and he said no. Then I asked him if he'd thought about how we would manage when he came home and again he said no. I told him I wouldn't be able to get him out of bed to get him to the toilet and he said he didn't expect me to; he'd be able to do it on his own two feet (even though he can't even stand without the help of two people). Then he started on about how I don't want him home and would rather he went into a home, but it was when he told me that I and the "kids" were selfish that I saw red, told him I wasn't going to stay and listen as I couldn't put up with any more and left.

I honestly don't know how much more I can take. My sister has been hospitalised this week with end-stage cancer (different hospital from my husband, with more stringent visiting rues, so I can't go to see her). It's all happened very quickly, although we think she's been hiding it for some time, and she doesn't want to have treatment - it seems it's probably too far advanced anyway. All this on top of his obstinacy and lack of understanding and acceptance of his care needs just seems too much to cope with.

Sorry, this has turned into a very different post from what I started!
I'm very sorry to hear about your sister, on top of the problems with your husband. They cannot send him home unless they have found solutions to all the problems you have outlined. From what you have said they are insoluble. Do you have a Care Act Advocate. If not, ask Social Services to arrange one for you asap!
Thanks, BB. No, I don't have an advocate; we don't even have a social worker assigned at the moment. I was wondering if I should contact SS but don't really know who to ask for.
Insist on being allocated a "2014 Care Act Advocate" asap, due to your husband's pending hospital eviction.
Stress the urgency.
You need someone on your side.
After several instances when social workers said one thing and did another, I told Hampshire I would not attend any further meetings without one.
An advocate was soon allocated.

If they say husband can have one, you can't, it's rubbish.
Thanks again, bowlingbun. Having spent most of the night awake and in tears, I have achieved precisely nothing today. Everything is piling up, so much needs to be sorted out and disposed of, the house is a pigsty, my business is suffering and I just don't seem to be able to do anything.
Take 2 hours off and go for a walk, without your phone, tomorrow. Everyone will have to manage without you tomorrow. The world has to manage without you for one day. Load the washing machine up, Clear a space to work, and do some decluttering in your bedroom. Have something decent to eat, have a bath and hairwash, and go to bed. Honestly, I can't see your husband moving back into your home ever. Can you? It's just not practical. You are in charge now, but it will take a long time for you to absorb this and recover from recent events. Start your new life by controlling your phone. If people want to contact you, ask them to email you instead. You open their messages when you want. Then you can work, walk, and rest. If possible, get someone else to do a "deep clean" to get a couple of rooms to your liking.