'I was thinking of your MIL's feelings not yours'
Well, that makes two of us. It's because I think of my MIL's feelings that I've spent five months looking after her just about non-stop, in my house, the way I have, ignoring my own feelings!
That's what sacrifice is - doing something for someone else that gives you nothing,and costs you a lot, but gives them something they want (and which, in my MIL's situation, she cannot get from anyone else). The only question is - how much sacrifice to make? That depends on how much compassion I have for my MIL, and how much for myself.
Right now, I'm calling time on the amount of sacrifice from me that it would take to make her as happy as she would like to be (ie, by living with me permanently.)
To be taken to task for wanting to only give up half my life to her, rather than all of it, is a bit rich!
As for anyone saying I shouldn't be looking after her (because I don't want to make a sacrifice of my entire life to her), well, as I have said several times now, there is NO ONE else to look after her. No one. So what possible benefit is to her if I abandoned her permanently in Glasgow?
Anyway, it's pointless my repeating myself. I have to be up early tomorrow, anyway, as I have a seven hour drive to Scotland ahead of me, and seven hours back again the day after next. Then in about two weeks time I'll be doing that again, to bring her back south again, once my precious fortnight of living my own life, not hers, is over again, and I resume living her life, and keeping her happy.
Well, that makes two of us. It's because I think of my MIL's feelings that I've spent five months looking after her just about non-stop, in my house, the way I have, ignoring my own feelings!
That's what sacrifice is - doing something for someone else that gives you nothing,and costs you a lot, but gives them something they want (and which, in my MIL's situation, she cannot get from anyone else). The only question is - how much sacrifice to make? That depends on how much compassion I have for my MIL, and how much for myself.
Right now, I'm calling time on the amount of sacrifice from me that it would take to make her as happy as she would like to be (ie, by living with me permanently.)
To be taken to task for wanting to only give up half my life to her, rather than all of it, is a bit rich!
As for anyone saying I shouldn't be looking after her (because I don't want to make a sacrifice of my entire life to her), well, as I have said several times now, there is NO ONE else to look after her. No one. So what possible benefit is to her if I abandoned her permanently in Glasgow?
Anyway, it's pointless my repeating myself. I have to be up early tomorrow, anyway, as I have a seven hour drive to Scotland ahead of me, and seven hours back again the day after next. Then in about two weeks time I'll be doing that again, to bring her back south again, once my precious fortnight of living my own life, not hers, is over again, and I resume living her life, and keeping her happy.