Hi Everyone
How do you cope with caring for someone you no longer recognise?
I care for both my elderly parents and I feel like my Mum has disappeared and I am left with this woman I don't recognise who is so nasty and unkind and joyless.
I've been sat thinking today that this Mothers Day will be so hard, because any attempt at flowers or a card will be met with indifference so I may as well not waste my time or money.
I am angry that my Mum has disappeared and I'm angry that I'm caring for a woman I don't recognise and who is very keen to tell me how awful I am at everything.
I come away from each visit in tears and it breaks my heart to see my poor old Dad doing his very best by cooking meals etc but also being met with nasty comments all the time.
We have paid carers in to get her up and dressed and my Dad does the meals and I deal with all the finances, medication, the impossible amount of appointments and phone calls etc. I also work full time and I'm an only child so there is only me family wise.
I feel like I've hit a wall now, I hate this situation and I miss my Mum.
My local Carers Support told me there was nothing they could offer and so now I feel so stuck, I can't keep boring friends with my misery else I do to them what this strange woman is doing to me and that's not fair.
I should add we have a mental health assessment appointment but in 3 months time due to Covid delays.
I'm just so sad and lonely and I don't feel well mentally or emotionally and I feel an overwhelming tiredness I just can't describe.
It does get better doesn't it?
How do you cope with caring for someone you no longer recognise?
I care for both my elderly parents and I feel like my Mum has disappeared and I am left with this woman I don't recognise who is so nasty and unkind and joyless.
I've been sat thinking today that this Mothers Day will be so hard, because any attempt at flowers or a card will be met with indifference so I may as well not waste my time or money.
I am angry that my Mum has disappeared and I'm angry that I'm caring for a woman I don't recognise and who is very keen to tell me how awful I am at everything.
I come away from each visit in tears and it breaks my heart to see my poor old Dad doing his very best by cooking meals etc but also being met with nasty comments all the time.
We have paid carers in to get her up and dressed and my Dad does the meals and I deal with all the finances, medication, the impossible amount of appointments and phone calls etc. I also work full time and I'm an only child so there is only me family wise.
I feel like I've hit a wall now, I hate this situation and I miss my Mum.
My local Carers Support told me there was nothing they could offer and so now I feel so stuck, I can't keep boring friends with my misery else I do to them what this strange woman is doing to me and that's not fair.
I should add we have a mental health assessment appointment but in 3 months time due to Covid delays.
I'm just so sad and lonely and I don't feel well mentally or emotionally and I feel an overwhelming tiredness I just can't describe.
It does get better doesn't it?