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Sun Jun 13, 2021 10:27 pm
My mother died four years ago and I cared for her for seven years since my father died. She suffered from Parkinson's and dementia. Her sister who she was very close to dumped her when my father died and didn't want anything to do with her. I could have done with her and her husband's support but they were not interested. They were in there 70s at the time. Anyway life goes on and although they lived nearby, I put them out of my life...until.
A couple of weeks ago my uncle contacted me, deeply upset. He is now 88 and his wife - my aunt had died and childless, he had no one to turn to. So I arranged everything funeral etc. He had also neglected himself and presumably the aunt was neglected as well. They have had no hot water for 3 years. House not in a good state Uncle has cataracts and deaf. I am sorting these problems out now. The funeral is shortly. However, he is not a blood relative and will not allow me to contact his nieces and nephews. His brothers and sisters are dead now. He says he doesn't know what he would have done without me. However, he has taken up so much of time recently. He is not senile and is able bodied just suffering from self neglect, all these things I am trying to sort out. When these things have been sorted out. I don't want to care for him at all as his age advances but I don't know how to contact his blood relatives. Because basically I don't want him neglected. I want him to have a comfortable life now. Only I don't want to be the one enabling his comfortable life. I don't know whether I should get social services involved, although he is of sound mind. I know I must sound awful but that is how it is. They both refused to visit my mother - and she used to cry for her youngest sister. They did not even come to the funeral. Any advice would be appreciated.
A couple of weeks ago my uncle contacted me, deeply upset. He is now 88 and his wife - my aunt had died and childless, he had no one to turn to. So I arranged everything funeral etc. He had also neglected himself and presumably the aunt was neglected as well. They have had no hot water for 3 years. House not in a good state Uncle has cataracts and deaf. I am sorting these problems out now. The funeral is shortly. However, he is not a blood relative and will not allow me to contact his nieces and nephews. His brothers and sisters are dead now. He says he doesn't know what he would have done without me. However, he has taken up so much of time recently. He is not senile and is able bodied just suffering from self neglect, all these things I am trying to sort out. When these things have been sorted out. I don't want to care for him at all as his age advances but I don't know how to contact his blood relatives. Because basically I don't want him neglected. I want him to have a comfortable life now. Only I don't want to be the one enabling his comfortable life. I don't know whether I should get social services involved, although he is of sound mind. I know I must sound awful but that is how it is. They both refused to visit my mother - and she used to cry for her youngest sister. They did not even come to the funeral. Any advice would be appreciated.
