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Sall the Bibliophile Online
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Fri Oct 18, 2019 10:28 am
Firstly well done on telling us, from experience I know that's the hard bit. However sadly it's going to get a bit harder. You are going to have to report the carer and suck up the fall out. It may mean taking a few days or weeks from work but I promise once it's sorted the stress will have been worth it. I didn't want to do it but did and even though we still aren't back to full service the stress literally melted away within a couple of days. I would also make sure that not only the agency the carer comes from but Social Services know she is doing this because who else is she doing it too? I bet she doesn't declare the money as income on top of what she earns either...it's a handy untaxable top up for her that needs to stop she's taking advantage! Not only that but almost all work places have a zero tolerance policy on things like this...it's abuse and bullying and it shouldn't be tolerated at all anywhere least of all when someone is vulnerable.
In the mean time there's more hugs, listening ears and whatever you need from us here to support you. Someone once told me I was incredible and amazing and a better human than most...I laughed and told them they didn't need to lie to me I know I was useless etc but then they pointed out that not everyone can be a carer, not everyone would even try and that's what makes you incredible, special, amazing and phenomenal. I can also say you will get through this and when you have next time keep repeating, I can do this, I did it before I can do it again. As I found out if you say it enough you believe it.
Looking forward to hearing how you are doing now.