I don't know. At the end of the day my only concern is my mum lives a quality life as best she can until she can't. Quite frankly I don't care and why should I in my personal life I don't care about all of the things people think that they do care about. Some of the stuff I have read is absurd on this forum, and sometimes people leave it too late...so they get angry......that is their own responsibility and yes...its tough...unfortunately.
In my lifetime as an ICU nurse I have seen more compassion and care from loved ones looking after their kin immediately dying in front of their eyes than I have seen on here.
I don't care what anger issues people have or who they want to target...and quite frankly if I am the newbie who people want to have a go at...then do it....get it off your chest and be done and then leave me alone.
And I don't care about the carers...because I am sick of people who think 'they know how to care' but are full of the contrary. No one can define care, it is impossible. Care is unique and in many infallible ways. (and I don't mean 'professional care' !!)
I love my mum, and I will do what it takes.....whatever it takes until the time comes!!!
In my lifetime as an ICU nurse I have seen more compassion and care from loved ones looking after their kin immediately dying in front of their eyes than I have seen on here.
I don't care what anger issues people have or who they want to target...and quite frankly if I am the newbie who people want to have a go at...then do it....get it off your chest and be done and then leave me alone.
And I don't care about the carers...because I am sick of people who think 'they know how to care' but are full of the contrary. No one can define care, it is impossible. Care is unique and in many infallible ways. (and I don't mean 'professional care' !!)
I love my mum, and I will do what it takes.....whatever it takes until the time comes!!!