Thanks SheWolf.
I am also concerned for my own health. But I am also concerned that I carry out what I said I would do until the time comes I can't anymore.
Sometimes we are left out of family and have to solely make choices and decisions and to do what we have to do on our own. My brother had bailed over a year ago and my sister though supportive can't be here all the time. But it all depends at how we look at it. I would rather go until I can't anymore than walk away, and that's what my mum hopes I will do and we have talked about it. The time will come when no matter what I do it won't be of use anymore despite all the love it is given with, there at that moment a decision will be made. I hope to keep mum at home as is her wish until safety becomes paramount. At the moment she is still functional and able. My sister and I have already looked at various placements for her and found her a great care home should she deteriorate to the point of needing full time supervision/care.
Its very difficult knowing your parents wishes and balancing them against alternatives. I would rather go as far as I can and give up knowing I had done what I can for as long as possible.......than not try at all.......I suppose some would call this 'letting go'
I am also concerned for my own health. But I am also concerned that I carry out what I said I would do until the time comes I can't anymore.
Sometimes we are left out of family and have to solely make choices and decisions and to do what we have to do on our own. My brother had bailed over a year ago and my sister though supportive can't be here all the time. But it all depends at how we look at it. I would rather go until I can't anymore than walk away, and that's what my mum hopes I will do and we have talked about it. The time will come when no matter what I do it won't be of use anymore despite all the love it is given with, there at that moment a decision will be made. I hope to keep mum at home as is her wish until safety becomes paramount. At the moment she is still functional and able. My sister and I have already looked at various placements for her and found her a great care home should she deteriorate to the point of needing full time supervision/care.
Its very difficult knowing your parents wishes and balancing them against alternatives. I would rather go as far as I can and give up knowing I had done what I can for as long as possible.......than not try at all.......I suppose some would call this 'letting go'