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I think they chose the "sudden stroke" storyline so they could have a more interesting and watchable carer with more side stories such as the children , the work and the ex.
If they'd based it on most of us over 60s (boring, retired, married,) caring for immobile, incontient, non verbal 80+ they'd have lost most of the audience in less than 5 minutes
It was made as 'entertainment' and had poetic licence
"If they'd based it on most of us over 60s (boring, retired, married,) caring for immobile, incontient, non verbal 80+ they'd have lost most of the audience in less than 5 minutes"

Spot on.

You know, I can just about recall I think it was Tracy Ullman, doing a 'sketch' if it could be called that, where she is a middle aged single woman, looking after her mother. The whole sketch is a monologue, as the mother just 'sits' there, and TU is chatting away to her, madly 'cheerful' saying how she is going out for the evening (she is looking 'nice' for a dowdy middle aged woman), and how 'you'll be fine, mum, the sitter is going to be here any minute, and I'll only be out for a few hours - I haven't been out for ever so long, have I, not months and months! And I'll be back later, and the sitter will be lovely...'

Chats on with manic 'desperation'. Then the phone rings, and TU picks it up, and says, 'Oh, I see. All right. Yes, of course. I understand. Well, perhaps another time then....'

And it's the sitter, cancelling. And then TU just takes her gloves off, and her jacket, and sits down at the table, and says, with a kind of quiet suicidal desperation, 'Well, Mum, looks like I'm in again tonight. Won't that be nice?'....

It was truly one of the most chilling pieces of TV I've ever seen.

TERRIFYING.
Yes, I accept it was entertainment and I accept the poetic licence. I just wonder how many people watch it and have their eyes opened, because this is not the sort of thing I could watch till the end.
It surely could not show us. We would come over as complete idiots or fussing too much, just the way we possibly do to many careworkers. Indeed, how could you convey the feeling of being pushed aside from life and not taken seriously?
I suppose a play can only concentrate on one or two points. But I fear the discharge nurse could appear to be the cause of all the problems.
Yes, I think the 'shoot the messenger' (ie, the discharge nurse) is a real danger. It is not HER fault there is no NHS funding for 'CHC care for all', etc.

Plus, she pretty eloquently - and angrily - pointed out that NHS nurses would be deflected from sick children to cleaning up incontinent old women....not that that was a very kind or understanding thing to say, but it did highlight the brutal reality of 'elder care'. That SO much of it is 'basic' at the extreme.

I wonder how many of the audience were folk who have, as yet, not been affected by any of the care issues it raised? I suspect not that many as, just as you say Greta, it made pretty grim viewing.

(Almost as grim as Death and Nightingales, which I watched the end of last night! Good Grief, just as well it was 'metaphorical' for the plight of Ulster - how can everyone in the whole drama have screwed up their lives SO much?!!! Talk about depressing!) (in case anyone else here watched it, it is NOT a happy ending!)
I'm feeling too low at the moment to watch a lot of things.
My favourite is Dr. Blake atm as it's based in Ballarat, Australia, where we have friends. I've been in some of the buildings they used, and walked round the lake with my OH.
The town has one of the most interesting shops selling antique style door and drawer knobs etc. that I've ever seen. (My utterly useless piece of information for today!)
Sorry you are feeling low Bowling Bun. I totally understand. Is there anything we can all help with? You give such a boost to those of us who pass through here.

Totally understand about not being able watch this sort of telly. I've not watch it yet either. Also finding Christmas a bit sad and stressful. Found Mum crying this week as she couldn't read her Christmas cards and then couldn't remember who the people were who had sent them. Dad is still struggling with visits from us in his nursing home, last one culminated in him telling me to eff off (whilst staff were popping telling me what a sweet lovely man he is - lol). So not really looking forward to Christmas visit.

I've not been to Ballarat, I visited Australia about 10 years ago, but went to East Coast, Alice Springs and Darwin. Would love to go back and explore some more. Did you enjoy living there?

My guilty TV escape was "I'm a Celebrity..". but shush, don't tell anyone. I've not found a good replacement for it yet now it is over, although I brought the Christmas Radio Times yesterday, so shall go through with my pen later! Other TV high spot is watching rubbish Christmas movies with the kids - who are now almost beyond excitement about the big day. xxx
Don't think I will ever watch that care programme. Need a distraction not reminders. I'm feeling extra sensitive at the moment. Am luckier than lots, as I have a supportive family. But still at the moment I could cry at adverts, and all sorts of nonsense.
((((((( Massive hug )))))) to all that need one.
How kind, Pet. ((((((massive hug)))))) back, and to everyone.
Thanks Sally, SSD are doing my head in!
However, I've just spoken to the Service Manager for my half of Hampshire, and it seems that at last I've been listened to. Meeting next week with those concerned. Fingers crossed.
I explained that by nature i'm an organiser, and that SSD were so disorganised and working so inefficiently. I suggested that I could really help them work more efficiently and sav them lots of money, and she is interested in me helping them. Wouldn't that be a result?!
BB - I foresee a second career for you sorting out the mess in social services department!

Actually, quite seriously, I wonder if that is possible? My local hospital gratefully takes volunteers to help with admin (I spent alas only ONE day in their offices helping - one of the members of staff had a thing about 'the cold' so the whole temperature was BAKING and I got a migraine in half an hour - I never went back, sigh).

It's a general problem when people whose skillset is NOT 'administrative' are expected to do admin!!!! They just aren't any good at it! (Whereas they can be brilliant teachers, nurses, social workers, etc etc -but rubbish at organisation)

I often wonder what would happen to the world's economies if all the secretaries went on strike. Meltdown in a day I think!